So I have had my 6 yr old son full time due to his father's mental health issues and alcoholism. I have had him full time since December last yr, his dad hasn't messaged me, called his son or remotely tried to contact him or me to find out how he is.
I have spent thousands on getting my son help and getting him diagnosed... Many many professionals later and a $2500, detailed assessment later he has been diagnosed with high functioning ASD and ADHD.
My question is, should I let his dad know about his diagnosis? It's has been 6 months since his father has seen him or even remotely tried with him. My ex mother in-law knows and so dose my sons uncle, they have been really supportive but also haven't seen or heard from him either. I just dont know If I should pipe up and message him all like "hey been a while, btw your son has autism and ADHD" it's seems all a waste of time but he's his dad..
Any advice would help
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Don’t bother. It’s not going to change his behaviour and it’s not going to help your son. In fact it could complicate things, if dad then decides to try and get involved when he doesn’t have the ability to.
That seems like information that can wait until or IF you ever hear from him again.
If you chase him down to inform him, he may take that as an invitation to flit in and out of your son's life. That's the last thing Mr 6 needs.