I guess I don't know where to start.
I've been with hubby for 8 years, 2 years married.
I already had a son before we got together that never seen his bio dad, he had a daughter before me too.
We had a child together.
I want to leave my husband. But I don't know how. I can't go to my parents place for other reasons. I may be able to go to my Aunty s place.
We were going to separate a while back. I But didn't. I didn't want the kids to miss out so I stayed. Don't think he wanted to let me go either.
This time, I can't stay for much longer. But the child we have together doesn't wasn't to come with me.
I'll be 8 hours away. I'd hate to leave my child, but what else can I do? I'd hate to force them either. Child is 7 if that helps.
Eventually we were going to move closer to his family and daughter, I've always wanted too, but we haven't. Now that things are rocky, he's playing the well move soon card, again.
I have a little bit of money put away. Not much though.
How can I encourage my child to want to move with me?
My son and hubby aren't seeing eye to eye much lately either.
I'm so stuck. I know this will be best choice for me and my children, at least I'll have a support network then. Where I live now, we have no family here, and I have no friends. Hubby does. But apparently I control him. (He can't go see his friends, but tells me he doesn't want to hang out with them, he'd rather hang out with me and the kids)
I just want to be free. To do my own thing without getting a lecture for every choice I make. 😏
Please help mums. I'm so lost.
I'll be reading Comments.
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I’m a bit confused. Has your child given reasons for not wanting to live with you? When do they plan on seeing you? These are not decisions usually left up to a 7 year old. I wouldn’t ask them why, but I’m confused why they have enough information that they feel free to make a choice.
Does your soon to be ex want that much care of the child, and will they do a good job of parenting?
He's a great dad. I'll give him that, but yesterday they said they want two homes. Like their sister does.
He does work a lot. And in order to do school pickups and drop offs, he'd need someone to help him.
No reason has been given. I'm not sure why she is saying this either.
I haven't spoken to her about it nor infront of her.
Can I take her? In fear he can steal her back if needed be? Should I give her the choice? Should I just go, get settled in, and see what she wants to do? But she may be brainwashed in the mean time. 😩
I fail to see why you should have more right to your child than your husband. You even say he’s a good dad. Why can’t you do 50/50 care? Why does the child have to pick between the two of you? And no, you can’t just take your daughter. You need mediation (who will probably suggest 50/50 care), and parenting orders.