i dont know what to do anymore. my 4.5yo refuses to even try learn to go to the toilet day & night. ive tried sticker charts, rewards, even taking nappies away for a good 4 days and it just ended up with lots of wee allover the floor and refusing to sit on the potty or toddler toilet seat. so over it. I might add I've also spoken to a gp about it and he just told me not to worry until 5...well not long to go til 5. i just dont know what to do anymore.
anyone with similar issues that worked out a solution to the problem.
toilet training
toilet training
Posted in:
Baby & Toddler, Potty Training
9 Replies
Yes theyll we all over the place. Push through. Get a kids seat so theyre sitting on the toilet right from the start. Lots of rewards.
My daughter was so tough to toilet train.
I remember going to our family GP and basically having a break down because she just wouldn't do it.
My Dr was very understanding and she told me to keep persevering until my turned 4, because after age 4 there is apparently therapies and services you can be referred to for help.
We didn't end up needing it but it was a relief knowing such things were available should we have done.
So maybe it's time to see your GP, to see if there is any help available in your area and even to rule out any physical issues that may be road blocking you.
I also found that I had to do away with pull ups and nappies all together, it was inconvenient, messy and created a ton of washing but it was helpful. It doesn't seem like it but they actually are learning when they have accidents, even if it seems like the accidents are never going to end.
She is over 4. And when I spoke To the gp he told me don't worry til she is 5 😭
I know, I saw that she's 4.5 which is why I suggested seeing your GP but you've already done that 🙂
I'd give it another really persistent go for about a fortnight (get all/any of her other caregivers on board too for consistency), if after that you still see absolutely zero signs of her getting it, zero improvement etc, I'd either go back to that GP and really push for a referral or I'd seek a second opinion.
Out of curiosity, is she meeting all her other milestones or is she at a typical 4 year old level in other areas such as speech, gross/fine motor, socially, even in height and weight?
Yeh I think I'll have to give it another go and see how she goes.
Yeh she she's met all her other milestones. But then again wouldn't know haven't been. Able to take her to the health nurse for the past yr so she missed her 3.5 yr old appointment because of covid But to me she seems fine with everything else.
It's as much about you as it is her (not at all in a nasty way).
Don't worry about night training, it's hormonal and you can't control it so don't bother yourself with it.
Day training though - spend a week at home, organise no visits out or anything and persist like crazy. Take the nappies away, show her they are now in the bin (have different night nappies so she isn't confused). Don't bother with undies, just let it all hang free. Have some puppy training pads down under where she is sitting and then set a timer for 30 mins. Every 30 mins, sit on the toilet - get her used to just going and sitting on it.
My son was quite difficult to train and ultimately, as horrible as this sounds, we made him clean up all of his wee and poo accidents himself. We began by every time we cleaned it saying gross, yuck, this should be in the toilet. Then we would be like "that is DISGUSTING, yuckkkk" whilst he was cleaning it up. Within 3 days - fully toilet trained and never did it again. I truly think it was pure laziness with him and making him clean it up himself was a saving grace :)
Someone recommended on a previous post “toms toilet triumph”on YouTube. It worked for my 4 year old who kept pooing his pants! Watched it on repeat. It’s the 6 minute cartoon one.
might not be the best parenting ever, but my son was like this. Each time I asked him to go to the toilet, I’d let him watch his ipad whilst he was there...
If its a boy go online and buy a kids urinal thats sticks to the wall. Pop it in the shower and start there.