Feb this year I reconnected with my first real boyfriend I had when I was 15. During the past 20 years we have connected on and off however the spark is so intense. Anyway I am currently pregnant with his baby,we have had some up and downs however we having been communicating extremely well. Early this morning I went through his phone and discovered that he has been messaging one women since January and his ex girlfriend on and off also. Now these texts include things like I love you,I miss you,I want your body etc. I am absolutely devastated. I have told him to leave and we are done. However I love this man so much. I always have. We have an incredible connection but I how can I trust again. Is it worth moving past or should I stand up for myself and myself worth. I'm so lost.
Should I give a second chance after discovering he is texting other women?
Should I give a second chance after discovering he is texting other women?
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So basically your whole relationship he has been speaking to other people.. next.
End it for once and for all. Get yourself info counselling. No healthy relationship has so many breakups.
Explore why you keep going back to him, despite it never working out. You are going to have to get strong and mentally right, so you don’t mess up that unborn babies life with this toxic break up drama cycle.
If you move past this, you'll be a doormat forever and you'll end up much more hurt than you are now.
You have to see when someone's not treating you right, and you have to know that they don't need instructions or chances, what a copout. He knows what he's doing, he made his choice.
Don't you see though that the intense connection is bull? He says it to everyone. He's always available to everyone because he's cheating. You've never been any different to those others. Sorry. It's definitely him not you. You'll be fine without him.
Should you give a second chance? No.
Oh jesus, you obviously don't have a great connection or communication otherwise you wouldn't have had to go through his phone!
Yep definitely one sided relationship. But the fact you’re defending and saying but you have a connection etc, and you keep coming back together after so long, you know you’re not going any where. You’ll keep forgiving until he breaks you down to the point you’ll leave, but he’s prob physically cheating if he hasn’t already. If he’s texting that stuff to these women, what’s he saying to them in person/over phone to keep them hanging on too? If you’re having a daughter what advice would you give her if she was in your shoes?
To me this sounds alot like me
There is only one guy your in love with but you no that no matter what it wont work
Its so hard to let go of that love
It can be hard to have a proper relationship with anyone else as you will always be in love with that someone else
And now that you have a child with him it will be even harder to keep control of saying no this relationship can not work
I think you may need a counsellor to help you deal with and let go of your feelings
Im sure he has an "incredible" connection with the other women he's talking to and doing God knows what else with. He sounds like a real gem...😒 dump his stupid ass and find someone worth your time.
No. You deserve so much more. I doubt he is just messaging these women. Even if he is only messaging them, he had an emotional connection with them. Emotional cheating is as bad as physical cheating. Don't take him back he will not stop