Hi ladies
My 20 month old daughter is currently in child care 2 days a week the child care centre she currently attends my sister in law works at and she (sil) has now been told that her last day will be on Wednesday the 6th of October and has come straight to me after her shift ended today to tell me what happened as to why she has been terminated my partner (sil’s brother) has said that we will continue to send our daughter there until we can find another child care centre that we like and is comfortable with now my concern is that now my daughters aunt isn’t going to be working there that something bad is going to be happening to my daughter now that her aunt isn’t there all the staff know that they are aunt and niece ( last name is one give away and my daughter wanting her aunt on the odd occasion is the other one and the fact that my sil signs my daughter out of a afternoon is the last one) I’m just worried that there might be some backlash or they might have some bad blood and take it out on my daughter for no reason might I add they are terminating her on the grounds of her health (nothing contagious just bad headaches) has anyone been through this before I’m at a loss as I never went through anything like this when my son was in preschool but there is a 9 and a half year age gap between both my kids we really don’t need the stress of anything like this as we have been trying for another baby and she has already come a long way with things like speech since being in child care
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If they're a professional centre then there's no way staffing issues would be taken out on any children, let alone children in their care. As a teacher, I do my job each day, the kids parents and other issues don't come into it.
If you feel at all uneasy and don't trust them then remove your child.
I’m the poster once we have found a new centre that we like we will be moving my daughter out of there I just haven’t been through anything like this before and when it comes to child care centres
You're overreacting. You haven't stated any reason for them to not look after your child. Majority of children go to centres without relatives working there.
I used to work in childcare, I'd be pretty saddened if a parent wanted to remove their child from my care because they assumed I'd treat their child differently or badly because of a staffing issue.
In fact, when I worked in childcare a staff member left on pretty bad terms but her children remained at the centre. Her children were still treated with the love and care that every child in the centre deserved. Anyone with a shred of human decency wouldn't take any personal issues out on a child in their care!
If there's no other issues or concerns aside from your SIL's termination, I wouldn't be in a rush to move your child as it sounds like she's happy and thriving. You could always have a chat with the director of the centre as well, they'd be able to reassure you that a high level of professionalism will be maintained.
Of course if there is other things you're worried about or unsatisfied with, by all means find a centre that meets your expectations.
Just as an aside, I'm fairly sure they can't terminate someone for a health problem.
But they shouldn't treat your daughter any differently with auntie gone. As long as your daughter is happy and settled, that's the main thing
An employer can terminate an employee I they have a long term health issue that prevents them from doing their job. I expect the aunty has probably needed to have extensive time off or her headaches have interfered with her ability to work effectively when she's there.
But absolutely spot on for your second part, there should be no differential treatment at all.
It kind of feels like there were a few incidents that have happened that you either don't know about it or haven't mentioned in your post? Because if she's truly been let go for a few headaches then I fail to see why there's concern for how your daughter will be treated by the other staff? There's either petty staff working there or maybe there's been a bit of special treatment of your daughter since her aunt works there, like getting away with things the other kids wouldn't and the centre has had enough of it. I used to work in a small school and you would see the latter quite often with staff treating their friends/relatives kids quite differently to the other kids. So if there's a change in how she's treated when your sil leaves it may not be because they're taking their pettiness out on your daughter but simply treating her the way she always should have been, like everyone else.
Yes, I have this issue. So many staff give better treatment because they have a relative or family friend there.
They bend th rules a little to cater to them. I'll treat them the same and be overridden due to favoritism.
So you think they will abuse a toddler because her auntie has health issues that makes her an unreliable employee? If you're genuinely concerned about this, the centre should be investigated. I'm thinking you're anxious for no reason though... Or I hope so anyway.
My SIL left our daycare in pretty bad circumstances. They all knew my daughter was her niece.
My daughter has had nothing but love and care from the day care. They were able to seperate issues and we love our daycare and the educators regardless of what happened with SIL.
Give them some credit. Daycare educators are some of the most professional people in these circumstances.