Hi Mummy's,
How do you manage working from home with a baby (and school aged kids) while hubby works long hours and often away for weeks DI DO..
I run multiple businesses plus have a job from home.
I am currently getting about 3 hours sleep as I work threw the night.
I have tried to get a baby sitter to come in and help.. but all have done no shows.... despite good pay.
My older girl has ADHD and gets into everything and my son is now copying. (stresssss)
My mental health is so far gone, PND hit.. now I'm just numb. These last 2 years have been so hard.
I'm starting to resent my husband because when he works away he gets a peaceful sleep and meals put in front of him.
Pls give me tips to help me stop feeling like this.
I don't like it xx
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Cut back the businesses that you run. Work out which one is your main one and drop the rest. You can not live on 3 hours sleep, it’s gangrenous and unhealthy. I know the feeling of these issues. I didn’t work though while my husband was away. I focused on my kids. I couldn’t work, it was too exhausting and my kids needed me. I dropped everything else that exhausted me. The husband never understand how much we do. Cut back. No excuses! You come first.
Dangerous 🤦🏼♀️
In the long run, something has to give. It's too much and your mental health is already suffering. Speak to your husband and you two need to work out a plan. It'll all co.e crashing down soon otherwise.
Balance your time. There's only so much you can do. You're doing too much. If you're working the babes have to go to daycare.
Sleep, eating, you time, hobbies, cleaning, running a home, all need to be accounted for, I don't see where any of that is or possibly could be. Having a baby is hard and tiring, give yourself a break.
I say this in the nicest possible way but you're a danger to yourself, your babies and even random people you come into contact with on the road if you're consistently only getting 3 hours sleep.
There's absolutely no honour in running yourself into the ground like this.
Why can't you put the little ones in daycare if you can't find a reliable sitter?
Money is surely not that much of an issue that you need to single-handedly run 3 businesses. Maybe cut it down to the most important/financially viable one and put the other two on the backburner. If that's absolutely not possible, hire some staff?
I think you also need to see your GP about your mental health, if you don't get on top of it soon you'll be on the fast track to a complete breakdown.
Hi - answering as the poster.
Unfortunately daycare isn't an option due to baby being breastfed and we can't get him onto a bottle.
Not only that but finances are to inconsistent.
I have online service based business. I have multiple due to them all only bringing in smaller amounts due to the pandemic.
Therefore staff are not an option right now as I wouldn't have consistent work for them.
My husbands schedule is to inconstant to plan anything.
He can work day shift, then night shift and then get given 1 days notice that he is leaving us for a week.
If I don't work as well, we cannot pay our bills.. due to the pandemic, we are paying so much more in rent then usual which has put so much strain.
I have spoken to hubby multiple times, he either ignores me or says he will quit... which does not help things.
I am also fully aware I am a danger, hence why I am asking for help. I have reached out to friends and family due to me already being at rock bottom, and being the worst I have ever been mentally.
However, no one can help me, nor do they care. I am reaching out here hoping someone will be able to provide advice I can utilise.
I'm fully aware I am doing to much. But I really don't know what to do. I'm suck in a rock in a hard place and needing about 5 of me.
There's not that many options really.
Have you tried going to the DC when your baby is hungry with a bottle of breastmilk and leaving while they feed him?
A baby isn't going to starve itself if nothing else is on offer. You just have to trust them.
With that out of the way you may need to car park the 3 businesses and get a higher paying job until such time as you can pick them up again.
You can't flog yourself into the ground for a barely passing income.
Move somewhere cheaper and make it possible. Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed not over worked and exhausted with no sleep and little kids who need their mamma.