I'm done with being a mum. I'm not quite sure what I'm asking here but I'm exhausted and drained. I'm a mum of 3 kids 8,5,3. I feel like I'm on a merry-go-round of breaking up endless fights, making 5000 snacks, laundry, cleaning etc over and over. I'm now that mum that openly swears in front of her kids and I'm not proud . I feel like I don't ever play with the kids because there is a never ending list of 'things and chores. My little ones go to daycare 2 days a week and those days are just chaotic with running around and doing errands. I'm too shattered at night to spend time with my husband. He's a real hands on dad and I feel very lucky that he's got a Mon to Fri job and home every night. I just want to jump in my car and drive away. The urge is so strong. I feel like I've turned into an exhausted and cranky mid 40s pyscho 😏
How do I go back to being a fun Mum again that has time for her kids?
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Your batteries are flat, gotta recharge.
That looks different for all of us.
I'm the mum that drove away. I was incredibly lucky in that my partner is more than willing to care for our son while I spend a weekend doing my thing, or if we planned a dual escape his family has been generous with looking after our boy while we spend some time together.
I promise. Organise to drive away. Just for some time for you. Sit in a quiet cafe with a hot coffee and a good book/magazine. Get your hair washed and blow dried at a salon in the massage chair. Walk through a pretty garden. Go with a girlfriend to an art exhibition or a play, make a big thing of it with dinner and drinks or lunch and mocktails. Whatever your personal recharge is you've got to invest in it.
You need to take those nights and weekends and take care of yourself.
We’ll go through it, it will get better. Start taking time out for yourself. Go get a massage, go for lunch with friends and have time out. If you feel that bad, get your husband to look after them for a few nights and go away and have a break. Stay somewhere else or a hotel and just recharge. We all burn out at some stage. You need a break.
Ok im not sur eif you can afford this but..... I am a cleaner, I charge $80 per week or fortnight for a house (or more if more is involved) In that time I get soooo much stuff done and I have been told that I'm a marriage saver haha
Seriously, I had this time where i feel so overwhelmed with house work and doing things, having someone do the cleaning and maybe even some folding even if it sonly once a month is such a weight coming of my shoulders, let your husband do an extra shift so you can have a break if he isn't going to help. When the cleaner is at home just go out and do you for the day