Hi IM....I would love to know other peoples experiances with moving out with 2 children? I'm very anxious about leaving my partner because I am not very financially independent. He knows that I will eventually be moving out when I can save enough money to do so. Do you have any tips or advice. Thank you in advance
Moving out anxiety
Moving out anxiety
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You CAN do this. It doesn't take a lot of money as long as your realistic. My advice is try and stay in an area you know but get cheap! You can always find somewhere more permanent and fancier when your used to going it alone. Your allowed to take some stuff from the family home so don't feel like you have to buy stuff straight away. Set a budget but you'll be amazed at how not having another adult to feed etc cuts costs. I found I personally can live off very little and kids cost very little to feed! I find it easier to save on electricity and stuff too because I don't have to worry about another adult leaving lights on or having exceptionally long showers etc
Don't forget there are charities and agencies that can help you get set up in your new home once you leave, you can get second hand furniture to start out with from places like the vinnies or even off Facebook pages- check and see if there's a free/giveaway page for your local area, or even a buy and sell page. You may be eligible for a health care card also if you don't already have one. I think there's a company called Nils that can help you buy white goods and whatnot too. If you google Nils loan something should come up. Don't forget that you're not alone and you can do this!
http://www.nilsnsw.org.au I'm not sure what state your in but this seems to be available in most places but each state has a different website.
One tip I have is to contact centrelink at the earliest you can! I applied for this a month before leaving as I had actually moved downstairs into the rumpus room - he was being really nasty). Provided you are separated and all you can do this. (I had to as I was still on maternity leave and he would not give me any money at all). Secondly I will not make this anonymous and you can feel free to contact me if you want a "sample" of how I budget and manage money as money is tight as a single mum so needs to be really organised... Good luck with it all.