For the last 16 years I feel like I have given my all to hubby and the kids... this year was about me now that the kids are more self sufficient.
So this year I joined a ladies footy team (AFLW) and I have lost 10kgs and i am feeling great. However I have my games starting soon and when I asked hubby and the kids to come watch no one seemed interested.. I feel so deflated... I've stood by all of them, rain, hail, shine at every netball carnival, football training sporting event, and even put my heart and soul into my husbands business.....
its one game, one hour and they all seem Nah cant be bothered.....
I just want to unleash.... but I know if I throw an epic tantrum they will come... I don't want them to come coz I have a hissy fit I want them to come coz they want to support me... so confused.
What would you do?
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Well at least it's just your thing and you get a good break from everyone. Hang around a bit longer or take yourself out afterwards to make the most of it 😉
Cut the kids technology if they have any. They’ll soon be begging for something to do. Speak to then and tell them that it’s important they be there to support you.
I’m sorry but it’s not up to kids to support their parents in sport. Get over yourself and enjoy the time away from your family. Maybe they enjoy the break from you. You sound like a nag.
Wow nice! How does she sound like a nag from this? Families are teams and yes when you have sacrificed your own weekends for so long so you can support everyone else it probably is a big let down to know that nobody is willing to do the same for her. It's completely OK to have expectations of your kids lol. Nobody should be forced to go but her feelings are justified. Very sexist to suggest that because a female is unhappy and expecting to be treated the same way as she treats everyone else then that makes her a "nag". Go back to the 70's with your wife beater attitude.
My dad used to drag us to his cricket games, as an adult I can see how important that hobby was was to him but as a tween/teen, I'd have preferred to chew my arm off than sit around watching a bunch of middle aged med run around like they were Ricky Ponting 😂
Footy is your thing, embrace it and enjoy it with or without 'em. Maybe just tell them how much it would mean if they came and watched occasionally, even if they only stay for a little bit.
On the fence with this. I get it you’re disappointed, I get it they’re totally not interested. I’d probably save it for a big game and then let hubby know the family support is important to you.
Just go and not make it a big deal - you said yourself that this is about you and it's your year.
I bet after a few games they will want to come and see it.
Imagine not feeling responsible if they were there not having fun. Or how much of a downer it would be to run off the field on a high to be bombarded with, "I'm hungry, I'm bored, can we go now".
You stayed and watched all your kids stuff because you wanted to. It was your kids and you were engrossed in them. That was never guaranteed to be reciprocated. And don't be sad about that. There's a lot to be said for having some solo time. How many women don't take any!
My "hobby" is travelling and concerts.
I ended up eventually inviting my partner to a few concerts. What I got in return was being late to all of them because my partner thinks he takes 5 minutes to get ready and does not, negativity (sound quality, food quality, particular band played like shit - so basically nothing in my control), and I spent most of my time alone as he'd find some random to talk so I'd just go in the moshpit which I would have done if I was solo anyway. Oh and always having to leave a song early "to beat the rush". Bitchin', they leave the bloody best song until last! I have no negative memories of gigs I went to solo. None.
I have travelled a lot with our son when he was younger and I wouldn't trade those memories for anything but now he's older it's over. I tried, he's a chip off the old block. So negative. Doesn't want to do anything I suggest but when he doesn't do something he should it's my fault because I didn't tell him to.
Point being, while it all sounds lovely in theory the reality is just a big old let down. Go and enjoy your footy, talk about your footy with team mates that share your passion. I understand how you're feeling, my story is to remind you that sometimes it just really is for the best and to embrace it for what it is.
They should support you and yea you should be pissed of about it and make it known to them how much it means to you I’m sure you didn’t love watching your kids play every weekend hell I know I hate watching my son play soccer it’s boring I hate sport but he loves it and I go to support him. Good life lesson for your kids we don’t always enjoy what we’re doing but family supports family no matter what chuck that hissy fit I know I would