Hi everyone I'm a 22 year old mum to one who is 4.
I originally planned to have another child when my daughter turned two with an ex partner but we split and I've been with my current partner for two years, I find myself very very broody but my partner doesn't really want anymore at the moment and I totally respect that but I find somedays really really hard because I so badly wish for another baby and find myself feeling glum about it or crying about it but every time I'm asked why I feel down I don't tell my partner the truth because I feel like it's really just stupid and he wouldn't really get it because he's content.
I just feel so alone and absolutely ridiculous for feeling this way.
Baby fever
Baby fever
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5 Replies
Get yourself a kitten or a puppy
What do you do outside of parenthood?
Do you have hobbies? Goals? A job you enjoy?
Maybe you need to find something for yourself.
You've only been with your partner two years, you're so young...there is plenty of time lovely.
You're not ridiculous, you can't control how you feel. Having more children is obviously important to you and I think you should speak openly with your partner about how you're feeling, especially as he is asking what's up so he known there's something going on. Lack of open communication creates big problems within a relationship and talking your feelings through with him may actually be really helpful.
In the meantime try and put your focus into something else fulfilling. You're 22, have some fun, build your career, find a hobby. Believe me, I really do get that sense of urgency broodyness seems to create but you really do have a lot of time left to have more babies.
22 is very very young for kids for some. If he says not yet, he could be meaning not until he’s 40. He can’t put an age on it because all he knows is he feels not now. So if you want kids, you need to find a partner whose plans align with that.
Tell him the truth next time; show him how you feel but honestly you are so young still, plenty of time and what if things don’t work out with this guy, once you have the next baby. take it slowly and tell him the truth. it’s a huge thing and he isn’t ready. Be open and honest with him.