So I’m recently single (yay), but am still having to live with the a-hole due to financial and location reasons. (We own the house together).
So my question is, how do you all do Father’s Day with your ex?
It’s coming up in the next few months, and I’m not a petty person usually, but I honestly feel like making zero effort after years of him making little to no effort towards me on any special occasion.
It was literally the same exact gifts for EVERYTHING, and it was always bought the day before or the day of the occasion.
Whereas I’d spend weeks planning his meal, his gifts, the days activities etc etc.
So do you just send the kids to school with their $5 for the Father’s Day stall and that’s it?
Or do you still make the effort like you did every other year?
He’s a narcissist, and I highly doubt the gestures would be reciprocated at all (if he made no effort whilst in the relationship, why would he out of it?)
I’m a nurturer. I love doing things for others, but it’s honestly exhausting thinking about doing anything for him anymore after years of being his doormat.
Please help. I’m so conflicted. 😞
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It’s about the kids… if they want to I do. If they are not fussed then just some $$ for the stall. My daughter used to spend the day with her dad so we would meet at the local shops as usual but we would arrive early. Would get them a coffee and babycino and breakfast and leave them to a Father’s Day breakfast date. She knows about it so usually asks to get him something.
Yep. School stall, the gift they make at school. That’s all. If the kids say they’d like to make dad breakfast or something you can help by buying pancakes or pouring the hot water, but don’t you make anything - the kids do it all. And that’s depending on your custody. Do you take days each or do you do mornings? You could even just go away for the night and leave him to enjoy the time with his kids.
School stall and if the kids want to do some arts and crafts. Other wise it’s up to him to organise any other activities.
School stall and whatever they make or do for him. That's enough! If the kids want to spend more they can use their pocket money. It's not petty it's teaching them to be responsible for gifts from them.
i vote school stall x
I can't aged my kids bio mum. She's a stalking, drug affected ass hat, but every year, I take the kids shopping, so when they see their mother, they can experience the excitement of giving her a gift