Does it ever get easier? I am a single mum recently, split 6 months ago and I just feel like the struggle is eternal, if it’s not money its work or getting the kids to school or getting a babysitter when there’s no one to help me anymore. Just everything! With everyone looking on watching me struggle and stress. It suckssss!!! When does it get better or is this just the new norm? Eternal stress. Yay.
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It gets better. The kids get more independent, it all just gets easier as you establish routines etc that work.
Yeah it’s the norm, there is always something. But you get used to it. I’ve had all of that but I’d say this years been great, I’ve enjoyed it. I’ve had a great work year so I think that balances a lot out when you fill your own cup.
Yes, it gets easier, you will find your groove, promise x
I'll be really honest here, and I know people will hate me for saying this, but I was single for years and no it didn't get easier while I was single. I'm now married and honestly it's so much easier now I have help! And a second income! I can just quickly pop to the shops to get bread and milk without dragging my kids out! But of course the most difficult thing is finding someone good to marry
Exactly right. Of course it’s easier with two adults! And of course that’s only true when both adults are functioning and helpful! If not, doing it yourself is always going to be so much harder than with a partner but still easier and worth it than to be with a shit partner.
I am a single mom of 4 kids. For me both were true, it became the norm but that in itself made things so much better. I thrive as a single mother in ways my exe prevented me from. It has its hard time BUT you do get breaks eventually. I really suggest daycares and pre-school. They are super helpful for the kids and gives mom a break during the day. Also, join a single parents group in your area (or make one). We take turn watching each other's kids and it helps a ton and FREE.
I love it.
I have two kids.
Built a house on my own.
Career doing well, studying my masters.
Kids are happy and getting older/more independent.
When you're successful and it's just you, I feel like it means more.
However, I am a very driven and independent type of person, I never like to rely on anyone, financially or otherwise.
I really hope you don't spend your time trying to find someone good to marry lol and work on being the best version of yourself.
It’s the spending time searching that makes it impossible, isn’t it. Who has the spare time, energy and emotions to waste going through all the wrong ones that are out there.
It doesn't get easier.
People treat single mums like shit and it's extremely isolating.
Be careful because many pedophiles seek out single mums and pretend to be amazing.
It's fkin hard out here. 8 years in and it's not easier.