Does changing schools really help with behaviour problems? We changed mid year due to bad behaviour, and limiter resources to help kids with behavural issue. We changed schools mid year. They fit in instantly, with a rather ruff crowd and now things are even worse. This school has 10 times more resources in place to help correct behaviour. I'm now thinking going privet school, but will I be wasting my time?
There are no behavural diagnosises, been fully assessed. My child has simply chosen to make a huge personality change and become an asshat
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Have you met with the school? If they have so many resources and experience they should be able to work with you as a parent as well.
What are you doing from the home side? Is your child allowed out to socialise? Do they go out? I do think that a teen can find the wrong crowd anywhere if that’s what they’re looking for (where they know how to fit in). I would be looking for help and resources on how to help the teen and the choices they’re making.
I have spoken to the school, and they have offered them all they can but not much can be done, if they don't want to be involved in such help. They are allowed to go out as long as they are home by curfew, and keep their phone on. Coming home when asked has become a problem, turning off their phone so we can contact them. We are on a waiting list for a counsellor and head space. They have run away a couple of times and been gone for days. Iv notice my alcohol missing and seen photos of them vaping. I'm rural so any councelling lists are months long
Different commenter: A new school or resources won't fix your kids behaviour. This is a home job, I would go further than a counsellor and look into a psychologist. Also, look at what's happening at home, be honest with yourself.
Kids don't turn into asshats overnight, I'm a firm believer that there is a reason behind kid's behaviour (good and bad).
I agree and it can come from low self esteem, low EI, immaturity, boredom and rebellion. Seems they don’t really get any kind of punishment for it at home, still going out with the same mates and just ignore the rules they don’t like, but it isn’t addressed? Do they get positive attention either? Definitely more can be done in home time, and with the child without counselling. Seek help for yourself even, via online or phone. Get your kid working and making money. A real wage by the way, so they learn the value of things over these holidays. Maybe meet some decent role models through their work.
So true, people expect schools to fix the personal/emotional problems of kids these days.
But you can't teach/punish out certain things that kids are exposed to and witness.
Sometimes it is the environment! I pulled my children out of a school and feared the same thing. Went to another school and from the first day things were better. It would not hurt to tour different schools and ask questions
A school be it public or private won't fix issues alone. It's a team effort. If a child (depending on age) refuses to be engaged/participate then start looking closer to home. What has been the trigger. How are they acting at home. What are the consequences for bad behaviour?