My daughter was raped and sexually assaulted 6 weeks ago by a stranger in Airlie Beach . She got very drunk in a bar and the man dragged her outside, down an alley and raped her. The assult lasted about 20mins and was very brutal. He only ran off when he was disturbed by someone going to take a pee. She is struggling to come to terms with it because she blames herself for being so drunk, she didn’t bite or shout because she was worried he was going to strangle her. He has also left her with an std she will have for the rest of her life. I really would like to know if it is worth going to the police 6 weeks later? Will there still be cctv? She said she didn’t go to the police because she wanted to pretend it hadn’t happened she didn’t want to go through it all again but now of course there’s no dna. She is now wanting to report it to hopefully stop it happening to someone else but is it really worth it? It was an area full of backpackers and she’s pretty sure he’s a backpacker and has moved on. Also how the hell do I start to help her? She is such a beautiful sweet soul and she is so broken. I’m so far away in the UK that I can’t hold her and I don’t know what to say other than she can tell me anything when and if she wants to. She won’t let me fly out because she says there is nothing I can do and she will feel awkward as she is trying to work and get in with her life. We are all feeling helpless and broken Thank you.
Edit: She is going to report it and is coming home on the 19th.
Sexual Assault help
Sexual Assault help
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Perhaps reach out on the Airlie beach community page, I’m sure there are mums there who would happily take her in and mother her through this for you.
Yes it’s worth reporting. What if he’s a local that preys on drunk backpackers. Or even if he is a backpacker, the trail or reports is so much more helpful than no clues. Police need to know to stop it happening again. I’m just sure that someone who can do that, isn’t his first and won’t be his last.
Yes please report it, they may have other people this has happened to. I wouldn’t listen and I would fly out no matter what. Just keep reminding her that this isn’t her fault. Reporting it will probably help her in her recovery also.
Report it, could be someone targeting that area.
Yes, please have her report it. Maybe there's CCTV footage showing his face as he led her out the door.
She is reporting it and then she is coming home. 😢
Ok that sounds like a good plan. I live near Brisbane airport if she needs a mum. I’m single and have two kids it’s an all girl household, she’s welcome to stay here if you need someone to help her on her way.
That is really lovely of you. Thank you xx
If she mentioned reporting it, absolutely support her. This is her beginning to process what has happened to her and it's important to support her decision whatever that may be. I would also suggest therapy so she is able to process this trauma and it does not present in other intrusive ways e.g. flashbacks.
As a mum I would find some reason or way to get to her so I could hug her.
Edit: just read she is going home. Thank goodness, she needs her family and especially her mum ❤️