Uninvited guests

Anon Imperfect Mum

Uninvited guests

So, I have a question sisterhood! Recently my inlaws have been coming over to our house with no notice or sending an sms on the way to our house. They are just letting themselves in. Does anyone else think this is weird? How do I stop it without causing drama?

Posted in:  Relationships & Marriage, Behaviour

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Anon Imperfect Mum

How do they let themselves in? That’s a big No from me. Pretend you are out. Or start being out and they’ll give up. Or just say to them can you please let us know next time because we have plans. I can’t stand people doing this. They know what they are doing and it’s rude. If they are elderly I understand but still people need to respect boundaries.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Has your partner given them a key?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Lock your door, assuming you're home when they come?

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Change the locks and when they text, say you're not available. Then if you can, escape.

Eventually, they'll develop some manners and schedule a spot.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Lock your door or take your pants off. If thet come in and you’re all pantsless that’s their problem for entering your private home

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Boomers! They just do it, my Dad is the worst for it, but I don’t mind. I would mind if it was my in-laws though, as much as I love them, I’d want to make sure the house was somewhat decent etc. get your partner to ask them nicely to give at least X amount of time before they come over.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I would send back 'sorry we aren't home' or 'sorry we are just leaving home now'
And I would actually just go for a drive.

Get your Locks changed. NOW! It won't stop, they will just keep letting themselves in, if you don't

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I have this same issue, not in laws but my own sister. She comes over unaanounced and even after we have warned her not to enter without one of us she does, we have very territorial dogs, they dont like when ppl enter the house. It drives me insane, so now we have to keep the front door locked at all times.

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