I have a 15.5 year old daughter who has a boyfriend and they obviously wanted to take their relationship to next level so I took her to family planning and got the bar! As a parent I felt if I said no don’t do it they would anyway. Have I don’t the right thing ? I’ve have l a friend say to me but you let him stay and she’s only 15, this made me feel I was being judged as a bad mum, but I figure the more I say no she would push back and so anyway.
Thoughts on others have done in this situation ?
Teenager sexual relationships
Teenager sexual relationships
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You have down the right thing. It’s better to be safe then sorry
You did the right thing
I also did the same when my daughter wanted to step it up to the next level. She was around the same age, did wait a little longer before the first time they had sex, so it wasn’t an immediate thing she went out and did after getting protection though as I told her not to rush, and if he rushed her it wasn’t the right person to be with.
Better to be safe than sorry and don't blame you for putting her on birth control. You are doing a great job.
Just thought I'd mention though that when you wrote 15.5 I thought you meant you had a 15 year old and 5 year old daughter at first. Just saying she is 15 is fine to say
I think 15 almost 16 is an average age. Yes you’re being judged, maybe I’d think the same thing about a 13 year old, maybe some would say the same about an 18 year old under their roof. No-one makes the call but you.
I love how people get all haughty about teenagers using contraceptives as if having unsafe sex is the better alternative 🙄
And that's exactly what happens, teens don't just not have sex - they do it anyway, unprotected.
Your daughters reproductive health is none of your friend's business. Tell her to get bent...
You did the right thing. My nephew(16) and his gf (15) had a baby recently. They had told their parents that they weren't having sex and they believed them so didn't bother with contraception. They were too scared to tell anyone about the pregnancy so kept it secret until 31 weeks. The gf does not want the baby so now everyone is trying to work out what to do and what's best for bub. Other people's judgement is a lot better than an unwanted pregnancy, tell them to mind their own business.
People will always judge.
All that matters is what’s right for your daughter.
You can choose judgment for 15year old on pill or 15 year old teen mum.
A straight ban is naive. Education and support = mum goals!
Birth control us never the wrong thing
You absolutely did the right thing!!! Getting the bar isn't *encouraging* her to have sex, it's just a precaution so that when she does (,because she will) then no-one has to deal with a teen pregnancy.
And it's awesome she felt confortable to go to you.
You're a great Mum 🙂
You absolutely did the right thing. I remember when I was 17 and wanted to have sex with my boyfriend. I asked my mum if I could get the pill. My mum was ashamed of me and wouldn't take me to our family doctor to get the pill. Guess what? I had sex anyway. And then my period was late. I will never forget how my own mother made me feel and how she failed me. She then took me to another doctor's clinic (not our family doctor) to get the pill. She waited in the car. I never went to her for relationship advice or spoke to her about boyfriend issues again. I'm 47 now, and it's a memory that has stayed with me.
Ur responsible! You did exactly the right thing.
You have done the right thing. I did the same for my daughter. Its being responsible and not burying your head in the sand thinking it won't happen. Its a good thing. My daughter didn't react well emotionally to the bar? Really stuffed with her head felt like she was going crazy and gave her depression. So just be aware of any major mood changes, that it might be the cause.