Honestly, can someone tell me why someone keeps blocking me on one social media platform, looking at all my stories on another, re adding me, talking to me for a while, blocking me again and so on and so on? This has been happening for months with a person I used to talk to every single day and it’s doing my head in
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Stop accepting the requests to follow you, so then they can’t delete you.
If they’re not all in, they’re out. Definitely enough signs to know they won’t be good news anyway. Move on.
Block them and then they can’t search for you at all. You’ll not get any requests and they won’t see your stories.
To put it bluntly, I am assuming you aren't a teenager but a full grown adult.
Disengage.
Someone who is hot and cold about you doesn't have a genuine interest in you.
Have some respect for yourself and move on.
I’m literally just trying to understand this behaviour, that’s why I’m asking.
I want to know what makes a person do this kind of thing.
I’m on the spectrum and I find human interactions confusing at the best of times.
So you're happy to play games and direct your time/energy to this person who doesn't respect you, that's fine.
The reasons could be:
They're incredibly immature and you're the only person who cares for their games and doesn't block them.
They are trying to keep you interested with minimal effort in case someone better doesn't work out, putting you on the back burner so to speak.
They enjoy knowing you're confused and thinking about them, but don't actually want you.
They find it amusing that you care so much.
You may never know. You’ll be best off not getting close enough to find out. You have to learn to just read the behaviour as one that tells you enough to know you’re worth more, and move on to put your energy into finding what you do deserve.
I'm also autistic and I think sometimes we are easy targets.
But I'm probably older than you and the day I matured and didn't care for this bs, the more peaceful my life became.
I stopped trying to figure these things out and just moved on.
I now only focus on the good and consistent people in my life and ignore the rest.
You can rest assured that NTs don’t understand either - there could be a million reasons. Just know none of the possibilities are honest or good or treating you well, are they.
I would stop interacting with them. They are hiding you from someone. My guess is it's their partner? They are treating you like the piece on the side, turning off communication with you when they want so the partner doesn't see. You're getting used. Whichever the case I would cut them off.
It’s hard to know. I’ve had to unfollow people because there posts were triggering me. Like a friend posting about an extreme diet she was on and I was recovering from an eating disorder.
Quite harmless posts can be quite upsetting for some people, depending on there situation.
Watching someone’s every grow on v family and pregnancy updates for example can be hugely triggering for someone going through fertility issues.
I have no idea what you post, or what your friend is going through, but it’s probably more about her going through something, than you being a problem.
When I unfriended my sister, the guilt would get bad, and I’d prepare myself mentally to have a look at her page, to see if I could manage it. Sometimes I could for awhile and then I’d breakdown and have to unfollow again.
If it’s a love interest, block them!
I had a friend from high school who used to do this to me across all the social media platforms. It was weird and truthfully a little hurtful because we'd always been cool (or at least so I thought). I genuinely cared about her and I would have loved to keep in touch.
It's hard to know what motivates this kind of behaviour. It could be immaturity, insecurity, low self esteem, jealousy, spite. Who could say!
Often we never really know or find out why people do the things they do. You just have to accept, it is what it is...
Just stop entertaining them.
Don't add them. Don't respond. If you do, be kind and say you think it's best that you go separate ways because obviously something is upsetting them in their lives and you're not equipped to deal with that.
They sound like not really worth the stress.
Just block them on everything so they don't have any access, when they suddenly feel like checking/stalking you