It's a new year and as the saying goes new year new me.
I've been though alot in my life. And come out the other end. From abuse though out my life to eating disorders. To health issues. To being a solo mum to a child with disabilities.
I now have the most amazing life. I have a brand new car I saved hard for. A 9-5 job. My daughter has support though the NDIS. I have 2 beautiful collie dogs. I have cash in the bank. I have everything I could want and people say to me I wish I had your life.
I mean I don't even have my daughters father in our lives to argue with. He did in saying that make an appearance last year after 7 years of radio silence
The past 2 years though I have been in and out of court just about every 6 weeks. With a man I dated well over 3 years ago.
I found another rotten egg and landed up with orders etc. It's been rough. He has dragged it on this long with not showing up, not adding in evidence. Oh and then us having the catholic education involved after we found out he has also been under investigation while being a teacher. It's been very very messy.
But I tell you what. I am so strong now. I am so powerful. I have never loved my self like I do now. I see a psychologist. I read books on self love and also on narcissism. I have really done the healing work.
Court in a crazy way has been the best thing for me.
In March we go to trial. And that is the end of it. It's all over. My case will be closed with my social worker. I won't need my lawyer any more. They have both not only been professionals in my life but have become friends over the years.
I'm now stuck. This has been my life and now it's over. I need to find something new (obviously not anything criminal or DV related) but something new.
I live in a state away from my family. Moving home is out of the question. My dad and his wife are near me. They don't leave the house (long story) so we don't ever go out with them.
I don't have many friends here. So I don't have a social life. It's really just me my daughter and our collies.
What can I do for me? How do I cheer my self up, fill my bucket. Especially at nights when I'm lonely.
How do you find a hobbie. Where do I start. I have my 8 year old full time also, so alone time is spare.
What do I do to full this lonely hole in me.
I'm about to enter into a whole new chapter once court is over and I'm feeling lost.
I feel sad inside as I have nothing to really fill my bucket other than what I have just stated.
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Expand your social circles. Join small communities, local p and c or even look at hobbies. I try and learn something new every 12 weeks. Weather it be a new gym class, hobby, skill or a new walking path.
Good luck, it’s almost over 🤞
Well done to you, you should be very proud of yourself.
Reflect back on what truely makes you happy and try and incorporate more of that slowly. No rush, just enjoy and adjust to a difference pace.
I am also a single mum who has her 3 kids 100% so feel you on the lonely part. Ive tried some online dating for fun but am finding the cons outweigh the positive 😢 it’s all learnings but I’ll try and find something else to occupy myself at night.