Hi ladies. I am struggling with my husband's sexual history. He has slept with a lot of women and on occasion has been with prostitutes. It has only started bothering me and I'm not sure why. We discussed ex partners and sexual history before we got married. We grew up in the same area so alot of people I already knew but it seems like everywhere we go there are more. I have had to work with, be friends with and associate with ladies that he has slept with. I have tried to discuss this with him and he just says, it was just sex. It's like he only told me some of the names maybe because I knew them and now as we meet more people, it's like they coming out of the woodwork. One was even my boss at the time, I had no idea until one night after a work function, we got home, and he said that he had slept with her. It's like I could handle what I knew about but because there is more, I am just disgusted. I am menopausal, has that got something to do with it? Any advice?
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I would tell him to stop telling you about his conquests! I do not need to know everything about my partners past partners and it is just bringing all that into the present relationship. I would rather focus on our relationship now. They are not relevant to your marriage, he made a commitment to you. Shove all the skeletons back in the cupboard!
BTW I would also not be telling my partner upsetting news about anyone we ran in to that I had been intimate with. They lose their relevance when you are committed to someone. No way would I want other people/memories influencing our current relationship. He needs to stop before his ego drives you away
Yeah, why is he telling you? It may mean he's super comfortable with you and can tell you everything but its making you uncomfortable so tell him you don't need to know or you will make him move haha.
He doesn't need to point out every woman he slept with, but I also feel your over reacting some what. You can't all of a sudden get all annoyed with his past.
I wouldn’t let it bother you, it was sex, he loves you, he chose you.
Our "number" really isn't important. Why does he feel the need to tell you? Big noting? Making himself feel good for having a high number? Just tell him you don't care and don't want him to bring it up anymore as it makes you uncomfortable. He needs to respect that.