My 2 teenagers are forever asking me why I’m so cranky, but they can’t understand they’re making me so cranky!! Backchatting, swearing at me, slamming doors, buying energy drinks etc when I’ve told them not to, come home way past curfew, fighting etc. they can literally do all of this, make me lose my temper, then turn around and say “omg why are you always so cranky”. They just don’t get it. Then I feel like a bad guy because then they go all depressed like in their rooms all day and act like I’ve totally ruined their lives! Omg how do I handle this!!! My temper, stress, anxiety & depression gets worse every day.
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yep, understand. i have a 14 yo boy and 15yo girl. the girl has treated us like hostages in our own home to the point i packed a bag for a break for me & my boy. i couldnt take it anymore and had to protect us. she only speaks to us in the language of venom, vaping, cutting, pills, running away, stealing, lying, taking advantage of everything we offer. its BS and i didnt sign up for any of it. people say "pay backs" and it freaking hurts. i never even imagined putting those disgusting words into a sentence and hurling them at mum. the boy is an angel, we've had to team up together and fortify each other against her attacks. there's no social services, covid wiped them out, no help is coming. 2.5 years now. thankfully since getting a job its lessened but the heart ache still comes. during her good times, i'm too busy wondering when the next attack is coming to be able to enjoy her.
Mmm I've heard this a lot but is your boy actually an angel or do you just make passes for him because he's a boy? There is a reason most criminals and abusers etc are male despite people saying boys are easier to raise.
The reason is to do with brain development, testosterone, social factors and having a higher diagnosis of behavioural conditions like ADHD and FAS. Soft parenting is not a cause for kids becoming criminals, in fact it is more likely that the opposite is true.
wow, ok
same DNA, same parents, same discipline, same opportunities. i'm biased towards the one that treats me with kindness and respect rather than spite and selfishness. nothing to do with an absurd statement of "because he's a boy"
But you did sign up for it when you chose to have her. It all sounds like a cry for help. Love her, connect with her, show a bloody interest in her instead of your angel son!
Mine wouldn’t be going to that place again. I bet there’s other parents who agree. They can sulk all they want, you’re not saying no sleepovers, just setting a boundary.