Would love to hear some positive stories of life after a divorce at 40. Feel like I’m starting again, with 2 children, did anyone ever find someone again.
Would love to hear some positive stories of life after a divorce at 40. Feel like I’m starting again, with 2 children, did anyone ever find someone again.
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I divorced late 30's. The most important thing is your kids and healing yourself, finding you and setting up your own boundaries in life, what you will no longer accept from people. Stay single for as long as you need, be comfortable with yourself. I stayed single for 6 years, I needed that time to find who I was after a long relationship and living my life for everyone else.
Live your best life. Single. Women do not need men to be complete. In my late 50's after two circa 20yr marriages, I am completely over looking after entitled men (they weren't bad men, but they are raised to expect to be looked after and the world to revolve around them). 80% of my female friends are single or have men in their lives that do not live with them and are not considered their 'partner'.
Start to value yourself, your time, your choices. Be part of a community, rather than living to serve a man and his needs (and by association, his community).
We are very lucky to have been born in the country we were, in the time we were. As women in Australia, we do have the freedom to choose for ourselves. Take advantage of that.
A story can be positive and not end with finding someone, change your focus and thinking.
Some of the best years of my life. I really learned how to care for and appreciate myself. For the first time in my life, I actually saw my own value outside of a relationship with anyone. I learned how to nurture myself when I was struggling and how to be inventive to solve problems. My kids had the best version of me.
I dated different men, at first I struggled with my boundaries but the more I practiced saying no to further dates, the firmer I became about what I did not want in another relationship.
That was until one guy came along and I found it too hard to walk away. I expected him to make my life harder and it was so strange to have someone supportive who actually added to my life, rather than detracting from it.
Over six years later with my current partner and I do not regret one moment of having the courage to leave my abusive ex all those years ago. I am so grateful for what I have now.