I'm never told I'm attractive to him

Anonymous

I'm never told I'm attractive to him

Why is it so hard for men to do the bare minimum?
I caught him looking at bikini models (and worse) on social media and even Onlyfans a while ago, so I've been really self conscious about my looks ever since then.
He's always said looks don't matter to him, and he never EVER tells me I'm attractive, even when I'm all dressed up.
We ran into some friends we knew the other day, and even though it wasn't the most appropriate thing to do, the male messaged me saying I was looking really good.
Of course I was flattered.
How can my man tell me looks don't matter yet he can look at all these attractive women?
I know it's more of a 'me' problem, but I just want to feel like he's attracted to me.

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Anonymous

I can honestly say I can't remember the last time my man told me I was attractive or looked nice. The closets I get is "what are you dressed up for."

He checks out other woman. Thay doesn't bother me, I check out other men. But I also tell him how sexy I think he is. I comment here or there telling me I look nice would go a long way to improving my sex drive.

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Anonymous

This is exactly what I mean. He wonders why I'm not more sexual towards him.
Because I don't feel like he's even attracted to me

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Anonymous

Red flag - that other man can tell you are feeling vulnerable. Watch out for him, he's most likely looking for an affair! Remember your hubby may be blind but you aren't. Look good for you, feel good for you, eat healthy for you and exercise for you. There is a you outside of what he thinks of you. Remember the girl you were before him, honor her and don't ever let a man's opinion dictate your worth. I hope this makes you more determined to pour that love back into yourself. Because every woman deserves better and you should never have to feel invisible.

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