I'm curious to know if any other women are the same.
When we go to bed, sometimes I would like to just have a nice cuddle before going to sleep.
It almost always ends with him having a grope or putting my hand down his pants.
I'm getting put off even touching him anymore.
I'm sick of affection almost always being turned sexual.
Don't get me wrong, I love sex, but sometimes I just want a hug!
Why do men struggle with not turning affection into something sexual?
Why do men struggle with not turning affection into something sexual?
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Talk to him… tell him how it makes you feel. If he doesn’t respect that it’s an issue. I’m on the other side of the fence and forever want more but I’d never expect more than someone wants to give. Respecting boundaries, conscent and meeting each others needs is a hard balance 🤷♀️
I have a snuggler, he gives me hugs and seems to understand this is what I need. This is definitely a him issue. I would try hugging him at different times throughout the day away from the bed and voicing that you just need a hug. When he asks why, spell it out for him, that it helps you to feel loved, comforted etc. Hopefully, he begins to understand but it really depends on his emotional intelligence or lack of..
Same, and after 30 years I don’t even want to be touched anymore. No matter how many times I’ve communicated to him that I don’t like that a simple hug turns into being groped (which is painful sometimes) and actually turns me off , he just doesn’t listen.