My mum died on Monday my grandbabies birthday party is on Saturday but I don't feel up to going. However the guilt is real . They won't remember m nit there , why do I feel so bad ?
My mum died on Monday my grandbabies birthday party is on Saturday but I don't feel up to going. However the guilt is real . They won't remember m nit there , why do I feel so bad ?
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How old is the grandchild? If they're old enough to miss you then they're old enough to explain to them why grieving people don't want to go to birthday parties. If they are very young then I'm sure the parents will understand. You can visit before the party to give a present and a hug.
Every one will understand as long as you arrange to see them outside of the busy party. But would pushing yourself actually help you to focus on the present for a few hours?
Our beloved uncle passed away 2 days before one of my sisters birthdays. She was young, maybe 6. The party still went ahead and everyone had a nice time. It was always like a happy memorial to him (he was her God father too) as all the family members spoke about the happy times we had with him.
I would go for a bit. Give your child and grandchild hugs, get a photo with them and then leave if you need to.