I need some advice and help. I love my husband dearly and I know he loves me but our life and his family has taken its toll on me. His family while they act nice on the outside have pushed me to my limits with many small and seemingly insignificant things it started off with touching my baby belly before acknowledging my presence to acting like I was slut off the street that is having their grandchild to leaving my house an absolute pigsty for me to clean with a week old baby and acting like I am only allowed to have her when shes screaming and starving and wont stop crying and for the last 9 months they have just disrespected me over and over I have post natal and a variation of other mental issues so I struggle to stand uo for myself yet when i do I get guilt tripped and my husband refuses to even say the simplest things in my defence I have tried many times to work through all pf this and it hasnt changed he is depressed and takes it out on me and I am at point I truly want to end it all end my life and never look back the only thing stopping I my baby girl will never know how much I love her I am seeing psychs and taking meds I am doing everything I can to change this situation but I have well and truly come to my lowest point... what can I do please help
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Phone lifeline, and please hang in there. Things can get better. I don't know what your life will look like but emotionally and psychologically it will get better. If you can get in to see who ever your prescribing doctor is before Christmas do so! Do whatever it is you need to do to look after you and your baby over Christmas, if that means saying no to someone or avoiding the toxic people in your life, whatever is right for you DO IT. Things can and will get better it's unfortunately going to take some time and making some decisions. Saying no does get easier with practice
Please call lifeline 13 11 14. You need space for yourself. It's ok to tell people to leave you alone or do their own dirty work. If you don't look after yourself no one else will. Speak with a GP or your child & family health nurse about post natal depression. Look up beyond blue www.beyondblue.com.au or google www.panda.org.au they might have something that helps get you through the night. List all the things that have brought you happiness in the last week, month, year read and read and read again until you feel it. Write down 5 reasons why you love your husband and give to him ask him to do the same and keep it with you always for the dark moments. Hang in there xxx