Hey there, I am 31 weeks pregnant and my partner wants to separate. This is his first baby and my 3rd. I am devestated and desperately want to save our relationship but he has given up. I don't know how I'm going to do this as I still love him very much and can not accept it is over but realize there is no point in forcing things. I want him to be happy even if it means we separate. I just want to know that I'll get through this, I'm so scared of going through depression again with a newborn. Have any of you beautiful women been through a similar situation? What helped you if anything? Thankyou!
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Sorry i have no advice just wanted to send you a hug , everything will work out just take 1 day at a time x
I had my babies father and I split up during the pregnancy. You hold your head high, you find yourself a new birthing partner or partners (my mum and sisters) and you take it one day at a time.
What made it easier for me was distancing myself from the ex so there were no confusing in the moment crossing of boundaries.
My babies dad left me when I was 12 weeks pregnant with bub number 1 and we have been on and off while I'm pregnant with bub number 2- currently 33 weeks. It's hard but taking it one day at a time helps. Do you have friends or family for support? When you have bub, ask your MCHN to make a referral for an enhanced maternal health nurse. They come out to you and give you a chance to talk. I'm sending you big hugs. It's hard to break up at any time but so much worse when you are pregnant because you have all these extra emotions. Remember, we are mums, we are stronger than we give ourselves credit for. Good luck xo
Sending you lots of love & hugs.
reach out for support hun, family friends, midwife, etc.
While he may or may not be there for you I believe there are many people who will be.
Put yourself & your children first, hold your head high. You CAN do this!!
You never know he might be freaking out over having a child & thinks removing himself from the relationship will help him cope?!?!