mega rant at pathetic family

So hurt/angry and totally freaking pissed off I could use almost every swear word

I'm adopted but this isnt why I'm mad. I reconnected with bith family 10 years ago things are strained but we talk and see each other and everything is ok.
Well my paternal grand mother died on friday I wasnt told till saturday ( neither was birth father bad blood from his brothers) im ok with that told b/f id like to attened the funeral we werent close but she was still my grand mother he said no probs his brothers were organising it as they are in nsw he is in qld. ( im also in nsw and close to were we thought the funeral would be about 2 hrs drive)
Fast forward to today ( nearly a week from her passing) he hasnt heard a thing so calls the suspected cemetery. Was told funeral is tommorrow at 10am an embargo has been placed and not a single member of my b/f family is to attened. I understand families fall out but to ban and not tell one part of the family is just outright f**king horrid. My sister's ( both were bought up by birth family its complicated but we all love and talk to each other) are devastated. Fair enough brothers fall out but to deny us from the funeral and threaten us with physical harm if we show up is just down right pathetical school yard crap. How can a man ( my uncle) who is 70 deny any of us from coming which on such short notice non of us now can birthfathers in qld with my older sister and my daughter has just started kindy so I cant make it by 10 either. My younger sister might be able to go but needs support and non of us can get there.
No question here just a monumental rant at pathetic self centered aholes