Hi Sisterhood! Please bear with me, I have to be a little broad in my explanation as I have friends and family on this page..
I have four gorgeous children and a supportive loving husband.. Three of my children are very close in age and young, two of them have started arguing constantly and they are quite full on! I feel like ALL I do is run around after all 4 of them and maintain the house which is always trashed by evening anyway.. Its gotten to the point where I am not coping well.. I'm always stressed and tired and it has affected my self esteem (coping well with the kids but not within myself) I don't even wear makeup anymore, I have no care for my physical appearance either, which is very sad.
I once had a successful career and I was great at my job! I look back and can't believe I did what I did because nowadays I have no motivation to work, I've recently joined a well known network marketing business (I cant name but one of the more successful ones who have been around a long time) I have great faith in the products but not in myself.. I have completely lost myself in the kids and being a mum. I place limitations on myself and don't think I can do it.. Its an awful place to be in but here I am!
Re-reading this I can see how jumbled it must read and there is no real point to it.. I guess I'd just feel better knowing there are other mums in my situation and to know that this will pass...
I can't return to work full time at the moment but this job would be ideal. It's like I need to 'step up' and even though that 'step' is right in front of me, I can't stand on it.
Please be kind mumma's, I'm already feeling pretty blue.
Lost in the Kids
Lost in the Kids
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I hear ya mumma....I have 3 boys close in age and I some days most days I feel I can't cope! I feel I have lost my self a little. I would love to go back to work part time, but it is just not practical right now. All can say is you are not alone!! Is there any other family members that can help out? Organise a date night for you and your husband, or better yet organize a girls night out with a few friends. My boys are 6, 4.5 and 2, im not sure how old your kids are but mine get older its getting a little easier. Big hugs to you mumma, you are not alone xx
I think what you are feeling is quite common. I have felt it myself in the past. I found taking baby steps has worked for me. Making sure I took time out from the kid so that I could rediscover myself for even two hours a week was what helped me in the right direction. If we allow our selves to it's easy to get so wrapped up in the day to day, the kids fly the nest and we are left lost and confused not knowing how to cope without them and don't know who we are.
So my advice take baby steps. Set a small goal when you reach that set a new one and take regular time just for you that isn't about work too :)