I have always had a rocky relationship with my mother in law, we have had some full blown arguments! She told me to have an abortion and has come into my home unannounced and told me how I should behave and a variation of other things. Over time we have started getting along mire but I just can't do it! No matter how much I try! She is a biggot, she is racist, she is ignorant beyond belief and I just can't stand her!! I have no idea how in gods name the love of my life is her flesh and blood!
I know I am not alone in having monster in law problems, I will not ban my children from seeing her- as it is we don't see her often as it is. My main question is how the hell am I ment to tolerate someone I fundamentaly disagree with in EVERY accpect of life for the rest of my life??
I wish to get on with her and I try so hard to take her for who she is.. But it happens to be who she is, is an ass hole!
HELP ME!!
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How would you behave if she was your boss at work? Look at it like a business relationship. I have to bite my lip while I'm in her presence but after interactions with her I need to find a safe way to let off steam (exercise, journal, whatever). She isn't your problem and it's not your job to teach her how to behave. Make sure you are limiting contact though. So don't spend anymore time than absolutely necessary with her.