Sister or cut free .
Hi guys just a quick one . I need to bounce this off people .
I do share care of my son and his father has sent him home with bruses down his legs because he couldn't get his spelling right . I took my son to the police and told child safety. They said there wasn't enough for charges but to engage a lawyer . A few weeks later he put a knife in his thought .
Fast forward I engaged a lawyer and started the fight he claimed no domestic violence every happen in our marriage . No this is were my sister comes in . The whole time she was telling me to fight him and stand up to him and I need to be strong and fight him . My lawyer as if anyone has seen it that could write a stat dec and I said yes my sister . I called her and asked her and she ignored my calls . She told my mum she didn't want to do it because he would bring up she drinks a lot. So my mum had to write it and say she had seen the brusing . It won my the case .
I deleted her from my face book and won't take her calls . How could she not help me . We are family .
Also before all this I saved and saved to take my kids to the Gold Coast to see my dad and go to the theam parks with my kids and my sister and her kids . On the day we get to the park and go on one ride and she says she's going to leave movie world and go have lunch with a friend and I'll. Be back . She left me with 5 kids and was gone for four hours . We had to stay in the baby area so my niece was ok . By the time she got back the park was nearly closing . I got to have one ride with my kids .
We had flown for my other sisters 40th and all the kids got sick . Except my sisters kids . She told me my other sister had said I couldn't bring my kids if they were sick . I burst into tears and call my mum who was with my other sister and she said she didn't say this at all .
Fast forward to now and now all my family are going to be in Melbourne for Xmas and she gets this magic family Xmas and I get left In tears again with my family .
I just don't think I can forgive her . Am I being selfish and wrong .
Help please my sisters
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She sounds very self centered.
Stuff her.
Its hard but once shes not a big part of your life you can focus your energy elsewhere. You dont have to cut her completely but just taker her out of 'the circle of trust'
Make sure to keep good contact with your other sisters and mum as you dont want to isolate yourself
I wouldn't communicate with her accept in group settings. If you are going to cut her out you are going to have to accept that she is sometimes going to get christmas and you aren't. It honestly sounds like your family has some underlying issues and I'd consider going to get some counseling so you can process all this.
I have a brother that is very selfish aswell. It was causing so much grief in the end i cut all ties told my parents i just cant handle it and i dont want to hear about them from my parents. Its made everything so much better. I dont have to deal with their bad attitude towards me and my kids. Somtimes its easier to take a step back and protect your self and kids rather than open up to everything.
Thank u .that helps heaps
Thank u .that helps heaps
Thank u .that helps heaps