hi sisters,
my hubby and i are seeking treatment to have our first baby having said that, i have noticed lately he has been abit snappy everytime i mention the subject. i feel like he is not taking this seriously!!!
i love him dearly but when i told him i was worried about the outcome he said oh well these things happen we have been together almost 4 and half years.
feel free to tell me your opinon
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I dont think he isnt taking it seriously.....it sounds more like he is just as stressed by it but doesn't know how or what to do.....I've noticed men do that it's a man thing. Counselling alongside the process would likely be a good idea for you both.
Men don't deal with things which stress them by talking about them by default.
Its something they need to learn...particularly in western society.
Even my husband has literally years of various therapy under his belt.....an incredible emotional vocabulary. .....he will say how he is feeling.....but discuss the things that stress him and he shuts down.....
I agree, with the first poster, it sounds like he is taking it very seriously. Undergoing fertility treatments can make people anxious, nervous, sad etc. He is minimising because he too is scared it might not work and is emotionally prepping himself to cope.
As a woman I do that too when I want something to work, but am scared.
You might both find it helpful to seek counselling. It can be a very difficult time fir you both.
thanks ladies
Kelly here from The Imperfect Mum team! Not sure how our scheduling mucked up your question not going to facebook - but I have set it up to go up this afternoon and hope the responses help
xKelly