Hi everyone,
My partner is looking to go for full custody of his child.
The thing is tho every lawyer and person he has spoken to has told him he is going to loose. The child was 3 months old when they split up and she moved out leaving the baby with him until the child was 18 months old then asked for shared back. He agreed to visitation but now it is 50/50 shared custody. I have been helping him get a case together as we know she is going to try gain full custody. (they would stay shared but both live hours away from each other so will be impossible and neither can move) He has tried telling her what he feels is best for their child and what would be if each had custody, but everyone we have spoken to thinks the child (who is now 3) should be living with us but he will loose. (basically even tho the child will be better off with him he has no chance) We have all evidence against her, he has all proof of abandonment. But she will not give up. She has told him if she gets full custody he will never see the child again. He has told the mother she will see the child all the time.
He has tried moving closer but he cannot. She would be able to but choosing not to.
When going into a case like custody as a father not wanting to loose his child, what more is there that he can do? Down here the child has a stable home, transport, a stable income from the father and myself, has many friends of the same age, goes to daycare, always going on walks to the park, sees all the other family- nanny, poppy, aunties, uncles etc. Up at the child Mothers, the child does not have a stable home, does not have any income other then welfare and child support, has no transportation apart from buses and trains, is always staying at different places and different houses with different people, has no friends of her age at all, does not attend daycare or anything like that, doesnt see any family, always around adults and left with people so mother can go out.
What is the chance of him getting any custody at all??
I don't want him to loose his child as they have an amazing bond and he loves unconditionally. It is putting a strain on him an way too much stress.He does not want to take the child away from mum at all!! he will make sure they see each other all the time, but he just wants a good environment for the child to be raised in.
Any advice would be wonderful and thankyou in advance.
How do i get custody as a father.
How do i get custody as a father.
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3 Replies
Record everything and speak to lawyers.
Find a decent lawyer/representation - sorry but the ones who are saying he will lose aren't doing their job properly. I know of a male who fought for his kids and won full custody.
The courts will decide what is best for the child and when they see this father WANTS to be in his child's life and has the capacity to care for it then that will be a "pro" for him. It may get to a point where you will both need character references, try to get one on the mum too. Show the courts that there is a room/place for his child at his house and that he is very thoughtful towards the child's needs, etc. You have a loving home ans social environment.
Document and submit everything on the mum. If you have text messages from her with her threats take them to the police, get them to report it (& if possible print them out and get them to sign off on the originality/authenticity of them). Try to have communication as written (text messages, emails, etc) so it doesn't become a "he said, she said" thing and you will have physical proof.
Maybe what people mean is that he is likely to lose the case for full custody as this is hardly ever granted, but sounds like he has a good case for having his daughter for the majority of the time. Make sure they do reports on the mother and that your partner does not slander her or sound vengeful in court as the judges hate a parent who badmouths the other. Make it all about the child and her needs.