Idk who to talk to
My husbands grandfather is in palliative care I've met the man about 5 times but him and his wife are the only ones who actually made me feel welcome into the family even before awe where married, my husband is devastated as he is really close to his grandfather I know I haven't met him that much but I just feel like breaking down with what is occurring he's not gonna make it till Christmas the doctors are releasing him Monday and said now its all about comfort and he wants to die at home, but he also wants to wait till there is someone there so his wife isn't the one who finds him as they have been together since they where in kindy!!! We all know that once his grandfather passes it won't be long till his grandmother does as well I'm not sure what I'm asking and I don't know if I'm just venting but I do know I'm trying to stay strong for my husband and our kids as I don't really know the man but he's made me feel so welcome
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You are allowed to cry, and it's ok to cry, it's ok to cry in front of your husband and kids. It's ok to cry in front of his family. It's ok to cry, you won't cry non stop, but letting it out is good for you. You can still do things, be there for your kids and husband while you cry. You don't have to be a robot.
We had a similar situation with my husbands grandfather. I knew him for only about 5years although we did visit him often (at least once month- we lived hours away). He was the only person who genuinely cared about my husband and his wellbeing. He always had my husbands best intentions at heart and was 100% willing to help him/us whenever we needed it (sad to say that my husband doesn't even get this from his own father). His grandfather passed suddenly and i felt utterly devastated that we had lost such a beautiful man and a wonderful person in our lives. Please don't try and be too strong, my husband was also devastated but i cried with him, was there when he a hug but h knew i was just as upset. I think its nice for him to know how much you also love his grandfather and what a special man he was both to you and in general.