My 4yo (5 in July) has been pooing his pants quite frequently. He started prep this year and only started pooing his pants a couple of weeks ago. He was fully toilet trained for nearly 2 years but haven't had any accidents up until maybe a few months ago.
It was very very scattered the occasional accident that we just brushed off as normal. But are really now concerned because last week at school he pooed his pants once and this week it was 2 times at school and now just on the weekend he has pooed his pants again.
I am his dad's partner, he and their mum have changed their arrangements about 3 weeks ago to week on week off (from two nights a week and every second weekend) we honestly don't see how/if this has impacted anything or if it is because he is too distracted at school or what the go is
I spoke to his teacher on Friday because his behavior has also really changed just this week to being quite destructive and wrecking his toys and not caring. His teacher hasn't noticed any changes in his behavior in class and he doesn't seem fussed when he poos his pants anyway. He just puts his dirty undies in his room (at home) and walks away as if nothing happened. He doesn't seem scared when we catch him out either.
Has anyone else had this problem or have any suggestions? Maybe it is the change in schedules, but they have been doing so well and adjusting so well with the previous arrangements for 3 years anyway.
When I say they I mean him and his sister.
Mum knows this is happening of course but we all sort of came to a conclusion of doing a sticker chart and getting a reward if he doesn't have an accident at the end of the week.
We are just stuck in a rut at the moment and really don't know what to do. No matter how many times we sit down with him and have a serious talk with him it doesn't seem to get through
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It's not uncommon for kids to do this. Often it's because they don't want to stop what they are doing to go to the toilet.
Just start sending him at regular intervals and praise clean pants. Once he realises he is being sent to the loo anyway they usually get past it.
So in the last 8 weeks he has started school and had a major change of living arrangements and he is the youngest in his class. No surprise he's not coping and acting out, it's too much! I would say you need to either change the living arrangements or pull him out of school till next year (which research shows is better anyway, especially for boys). Your boy is doing this for a reason that he can't express, maybe a counsellor could help if you want to figure it out?