Hi Ladies,
So... I would love your honest opinion and what your first thoughts are regarding what I'm about to say!
So my partner & I have been together for awhile now. Anyway, In the last 2 years I have been called every single name under the sun, never had I been called theson prior to being with him & they are awful at the best of times. He constantly compares me to his ex's or other women in general. He'll come home from work & if there's toys (from our kids) laying around in the lounge room, washing that hasn't been put away, he'll say that I'm lazy & his ex's managed to keep a home much better then I,or 'my favourite' well tell me how do other bitches keep their house up looking like a model home & they have children. My answer to that is always the same, maybe they have understanding husbands, or they get help etc that's when he'll just start! Funny thing is, he never says anything like this to me in front of his friends. He's ex broke up with him, due to 'her' being a (as he likes to call her' a fuckwit! Never once has he told me what he actually did/said in the relationship. He thinks I have bipolar only when I have my periods. A few nights ago we came home from dinner with our kids & I asked him to dress the youngest, so they can go to bed & well........ Didn't he have something to say! He said to me all I want to do is lay down and go to sleep! He did start to dress the baby, and because the pjs had heaps of buttons he accuses me of (he's words)' 'you like to fuck me around don't you' oh & then the baby pissed all over the bed, instead of being a parent about it, he literally screams out to me, telling that there's pee on his side of the bed I might add. Shortly after that I said well you are a dad & it's your responsibility as much as its mine, what do you think you just have to go out & work and that's your way of supporting our children? He turned and said yes! So pretty much he explained that all he has to do is work & that's it!
Please help me! I could write & write some
more about him, but I'd rather not.
Now my question to you is; what do you think of this 'man' who claims to love me & our family? Honest/brutal opinions are wanted!!!!
Thank you!
11 Replies
He's emotionally abusive. That's what I think.
Hes a selfcentred asshole and you are being abused.
This is not a man. You shouldn't tolerate being treated this way. Please don't think the way you are being treated is normal. It isn't and you need to do something about it. It's up to you what that step is x
I was with someone like this for almost 5 years and lost myself in the process. Get out now, he won't change.
He is a jerk and shouldn't disrepect you like that. He sounds emotionally abusive and is trying to chip away at your confidence.
My honest brutal answer is why are you with him? Why do you stay?
He is verbally abusive at the least. He is not a partner, a partner is a verb, someone who works in partnership with you. He is your abuser, not a partner.
I think he is a lame excuse of a man. A relationship is about being partners, sharing, being supportive and when u have children HE NEEDS TO HELP.
For all you do you do not deserve to be treated like this.
You deserve to be treated properly, not like a slave.
Comparing you to his exes.....id have told him to get back with them if that's who he wants u to be and that he could go fuck himself.
We are not in the 50s anymore.
Yes he works and brings in the money, but so do millions of other males and they still help their partners.
Leave this douchebag.
I told my partner what was written here and his words "what a fuckwit, I still help you after a 10hour day, it's what partners do."
Exactly!
It's a partnership, I'm heartbroken to read this :(
My husband doesn't do a great deal around the house, he is out for approx 16 hrs a day, leaves home at 2:30am...... BUT, he does not say a word about the unfolded washing, or house not being tidy, he'll still help dish up dinner, and get the kids off to bed (he goes at the same time!!)
Please don't put up with this
This is abuse! I also have an emotionally abusive husband, have an 8 month old daughter with him and we have been together for 10 years. I am currently going to counselling which has helped and I am now starting to wonder...why am in this relationship???
I would highly recommend you see a counsellor about this too.
Sounds like my ex, emotionally abusive, narsassistic, lazy oxygen thief. Take your kids & leave you will be better off
You are in an emotional abusive relationship.
Ive just left (just this week) my own dv relationship because of how i was being treated.
Everything he is saying to you is belittling you and trying to make you feel bad about how you handle everyday life and the kids.
Ask yourself if your daughter or son were in the same situation what would you tell them to do, how would you feel to see them go through that. Do you really want your kids growing up in that environment.
Its taken me nearly 7 years to see what was happening to me and how much its effected my kids and my own self worth. Im still working out what next but ive taken the first step and im not looking back.
Good luck mumma and i wish you all the best.