Hi mummies!!
I'm after some advice!
My DD has not long turned one and she is being extra clingy to me which is fine. But is being extra nasty to her daddy! It breaks my heart how nasty and horrible she is to him. All he ever does is love her unconditionally and he screams when he comes near her and slaps him in the face when he is trying to kiss her. But she gets so excited to see him walking to the door after work or when he calls she loves chatting to him. But if he tries to do anything for her give her food, pick her up when she hurts herself or bath her she wants absolutely nothing to do with him. He is so upset by her behavior and just wants cuddles with his little princess. I know it's a faze but is there anyway of getting her back to loving her daddy sooner? I have tried making the big fuss when he is pulling up in the driveway which she gets excited until he gets inside the house. He has tried pretending to cry when she upsets him and she just walks away. ?
DD not liking her daddy!
DD not liking her daddy!
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4 Replies
This is just a phase I promise. In a year's time he will probably be flavour of the month and you will be cast aside. With my youngest I would say no mammy is busy if you want a snack Daddy can do it. It's hard not to back down and my husband used to think it was easier for me to do it. But do persevere. I also started to leave for short periods of time to go to my excercise class so Daddy had to do bed time. I think this worked best and broke tge cycle. I used to sneak out but then after a while I would say goodbye and although there would be tears he would get over it. He's 2 and a half now and it is better but sometimes I still have to be stealth Mammy to get out of the house without a drama. It will pass with time and reassurance that Daddy is as good as Mammy.
Time for you to go out and leave her home with daddy. Even if she screams or cries.
Agree with the above comment. Let her have some alone and bonding time with daddy. Get in to a routine of daddy bathing her every night, just ignore the tears for the first bath or two or get dad to read her a bed time story. Something she can expect daily that dad will do with her.
Children that age are not capable of having multiple relationships with people that's why they tend to favour one parent.
My daughter gets like this but after a day spent with daddy bonding it changes and she starts to accept things more with him and will have more to do with him. Same situation crops up from time to time but I don't allow her to dictate if she won't take something from her father then she doesn't get it!
I don't believe in forcing children to kiss and cuddle if they don't want to. (Creates other issues later on) but definitely step in and stop her from hurting her daddy by explaining that you can't hurt people etc
Good luck!