Different Names for Step-Dads apart from the name "Dad/Daddy" ?

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Different Names for Step-Dads apart from the name "Dad/Daddy" ?

Heya Sisters,
I have 3 kids and I split from their dad almost 3 years ago, it took me a little while to get back into the dating scene and then I met the most gorgeous man after I kissed a few frogs. We've been together 16 months and he's been apart of my children's lives for the last 10-11 months. We didn't involve him majorly until we had been together quite a few months. My youngest has been trying out and I say trying out because it happens a fair bit, calling my new partner Dad/Daddy etc he feels a little overwhelmed at the thought and also doesn't want to step on her actual Dads toes. He still sees her once a week. I don't want to deter her from calling this man dad in the future as he is everything a dad should be, they've formed quite a bond and she misses him terribly when he is gone. Well just say he's FIFO. She sees him two nights and 2 mornings a week. He's aware that when we have our own that she will see him being called dad by our children and that it's not really a big deal and that her actual Dad will get over it in time. How can we encourage the use of his name, or what other names do your kids call their stepdads that's different to Dad/Daddy. I want to make it easier on the both of them. My partner has taken to parenting quite well and works with me as a team. I know it's normal to want to call the main man in your life Dad as I have called my step dad plain old dad since he and my mum were together for a year. (My actual father hadn't been in the picture for years before then) I'm just trying to work out what else is out there so that the two of them can get there own special thing worked out. Ta Ladies!

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Anonymous

I know of someone that calls her stepdad Moo, I guess that's her nickname for him stead of calling him dad or his name. In saying that too I have this with my stepkids, they asked to call me Mum and their mother completely objected as did my partner with them calling her boyfriend Dad. I suggested having nicknames for us so they're not calling us by name because they clearly don't want to and got told I'm interfering with parenting, go figure I'm just trying to help the kids speak.

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Anonymous

Thanks OP here. It's just so hard. I am not objecting to her calling him dad, his face lights up every time she says it, it's more how he feels. I asked him if there was something he would like her to call him and he can't think of anything ? Pain in the butt is just to long. No but really, thanks I am so stuck for ideas. Will talk to him again when he's in town. It'd be so much easier if her dad wasn't such a drama queen.

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Anonymous

Why dont you ask the older kids?

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Anonymous

My Older kids are happy to call him by his first name, they're autistic so he is who he is to them. My youngest is "normal" so they say, and sees him as her father figure. He's a more hands on dad than the actual dad and I knew out of the 3 of them it would be my youngest who would feel this way. i just didn't think it would happen so soon.

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Anonymous

Just a thought (and I hope it doesn't offend in any way because I don't know anything about you or your family) if the stepdad speaks a 2nd language what about calling him the word that translates to dad/father? Or finding one that he likes? Like papa or something?
Or find a nickname like it has been suggested.

I call my step parents by their names, they came into my life when I was older & my dad has always been an active and loving person in my life so for me I didn't need a dad/mum but I love and respect my step parents as mother/father figures in my life.

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Anonymous

My partner name is adam, they usually just use his name but occasionally use dadam

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Anonymous

My kids (6 & 4) call their Stepdad Maddy, his name is Matt. He is such a great Dad to them and they love him possibly a little more than their bio dad.

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Anonymous

I call my step dad "daddy Ross"
I always have and still do at 26!
I even split my walk down the aisle in 2 so my step dad walked the first part to the end of the aisle, and my dad walked me down the aisle.
He has been with my mum since I was 1 so I never really knew any different. He has been a father to me just as much as my bio dad has been and I consider them both my fathers

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