I'm a stay at home mum to 3 and I don't really do much that strays outside of my normal daily routine as I feel too overwhelmed with everything if I have to all of a sudden rush home and try to get dinner prepped and cooked in a short time or housework done quickly etc. I will be the 1st to admit that I have turned into a very boring person the last few years but I just don't know how to snap out of it. I only have a couple of really close friends as I find it too hard to keep up with anymore. I didn't go to mothers group with any of my kids and if I'm invited to go anywhere I always talk myself out of it because I'm scared I won't know anyone or I won't have anything interesting to say. I hate talking on the phone to people, I even hate answering my phone if it rings and I don't know who's calling. It sounds so silly...I don't even know who I am anymore!
I'm afraid I'm missing out on oportunities for my kids, for our future by being this scared little mouse who doesn't want to be around other people even though I'm so lonely. I have a partner who works and he works hard and long hours but he just doesn't understand why I'm like the way I am. I don't even know why I'm like this. I'm hoping there is someone out there who may have gone through something similar, how did you get your confidence back? What helped you?
Lost and overwhelmed with life
Lost and overwhelmed with life
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Mental Health, Post Natal Depression, Anxiety & Depression
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It sounds to me like anxiety. Social anxiety. I am exactly the same even down to the phone calls! I'd go see your GP & get a referral to a councillor
It will get better
It's like looking in a mirror, I got so bad that I couldn't go anywhere without hubby, couldn't answer the phone (still hate it) even replying to a friendly 'hello' as I passed people was hard. I know looking from the outside it all seems silly but the feelings are real and it's ok to acknowledge them. Go to your GP firstly. What helped me the most was finding activities where your around people for a purpose not for social reasons like a job or sport, that way you don't feel pressured into talk or you have a common purpose to talk about. Slowly but surely it becomes easier. It's been 12 yrs since I first hit my lowest and I've had a few ups and downs since but I've learnt to understand it and manage it the best I can, there is still times I have to retreat into my own little bubble but I'm ok ? good luck, you've got this ??