After having the week nightmares are made of, I'm not coping. I'm usually a very strong, emotionally stable person however with the past weeks events, my foundations have been rocked.
I'm having huge anxiety attacks that have these ridiculous chest pains. I'm not sleeping. My moods are unstable and sometimes I can be disconnected and distant. I'm told these are all normal reactions to the circumstances I've been faced with. Yes, I've seen the doc. I'm seeking counselling but my biggest problem is my partner.
He is wonderful and supportive normally but is now turning this all around to make it about him. He is moping around because he hasn't had an abundance of affection. If I'm having a down moment and I'm sitting quietly staring into nothingness, he thinks he has done something to cause my mood which results in bickering and more moping.
What is already emotionally and physically draining is 100 times worse because I feel like I have to put on a show that I am fine and happy and life is rosie when inside I want to fall apart and scream.
Any ideas on how to make him understand that although he is my world, it's not revolving around him at the moment? I've come close to saying that, but decided it wasn't worth the shit storm that would follow.
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Get him to read what you wrote. I think it's explains it very well. Maybe edit out the last sentence.
I feel your pain, I too have been through a torrid time and my partner has been pretty unsupportive lately. Always get told I look like a "depressed fuck" and that I should focus on positives instead of negatives. Which is just what you want to hear when you feel so down!! I'm sorry I can't offer advice but please know you're not alone!
Ask your counselor what to do, their advice will be targeted directly to your circumstances.
My partner is not my mental health support person, it is not something he has ever had to deal with so he doesn't have the skills. My best friend is my support person. For my partner, he just had to learn that sometimes I need to fix things myself and if that means time to do it then back off and give me time. He appreciated knowing that I was working on it and this wasn't going to be his life forever.
Keep going, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.