I have been single with one child for the most part of 10 years. My daughter is my priority and I have never been in a rush to find a new partner because of this. Lately I have been feeling more serious about finding a new partner. I am financially and generally independent, so I just want to meet someone to spend time with and go from there. I have been online for a while now without much purpose or luck. I absolutely freak out if someone I meet online wants to meet in person, I just can't cope as it is practically a blind date and an awful thought (being rejected and also being trapped on a date with someone I don't like). I know a few single dads my age but they have never shown any interest in me other than friends/acquaintances. I don't really know what my question is other than advice on where to start, how to get to know someone without pressure, what do men my age want and also how do I overcome the feelings of not being good enough for anyone? I do not have a perfect body which has always been my perceived reason why no one fancies me. Advice from men is most welcome.
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I can promise you the guy who is asking you out has the exact same feers you do.
It's totally normal to be nervous and afraid.
Some rules I keep in mind in regards to internet dating is I suggest a coffee date/drink date. That way it's not a big song and dance, and you can stay an hour and leave but if it's going well you can stay longer.
EVERYONE gets rejected at some point, and I can guarantee you will reject some people.
I was a size 20, I'm now a size 14. I have saggy boobs, a hugely stretched stomach and an overhang. I can tell you now, Ive gotten as much interest from guys now as I did when I was 18 years old, skinny, perky and big boobs. Guys are not turning me down because of my body. In fact I get requests for nude pics.
Guys also have hang ups about there bodies, they are scared they aren't muscly enough and they are terrified they aren't good in bed and that there penis is too small.