I finally got the courage to end my 7.5 year long relationship. Without going into detail, the relationship was horrendous and ending it was well overdue! However, we are still living under the same roof and I don't want to be... My question is, how do I bring this topic up with him without him lashing out at me or himself. I'm terrified of him hurting himself.
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You just do... ending a relationship means that it is a given you will begin seperate lives. There isn't a nice way but just be understanding and respectful. I could be wrong here but I will assume that he may have depression if you are worried about him hurting himself. Just keep yourself safe and if he indicates once that he will hurt himself you don't stuff around. Call the police and ask them to do a welfare check and tell them exactly what he has said. Suicide should not be taken lightly but don't for one second allow someone to put that consequence on your shoulders. If he is genuinely in that dark place he will be offered help and if he is using it as a way to keep you from leaving he will get the shock of his life and probably won't do it again. Good luck!
What he does to himself you are 100% not responsible for. Any threats he makes to harm himself or you are a form of abuse/domestic violence.
I think it's a really good idea to ring a domestic violence support group. They can help you get out safely, based on your circumstances.
If he lashes out, threatens to harm himself, you, etc, you call 000 and leave it to the emergency services to deal with. Its not your responsibility to keep him from harming himself, and if you allow him to make it your responsibility, he will use it as a form of control against you.
Do you have a friend or family member who could be there with you when you tell him its time for him to move out?