ONLY CHILD-
I have a DD who is six I am don't have the desire for another baby, but I'm filled with guilt! Are we being selfish not giving our little girl a sibling? The guilt is real and it's playing with my mind. 😔But wanting a sibling for my daughter reason enough to have another. Please no judgement my daughter is well adjusted and has no issues making friends she is also very confident. She enjoys all the extra activities we can do just being the three of us. Looking for mummas of one to shed some light / words of wisdom on how to beat the GUILTS ❤❤❤
ONLY CHILD
ONLY CHILD
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Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression, Parenthood Guilt
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If you don't want another baby don't have one! All families are different, there is no right way to have a family. Even if you did have another if it was a girl you'd get "You need to try for a boy" if it was a boy you'd get "You should give them a same sex sibling because they'd be closer" you just can't win...there are plenty of only kids out there who do just fine and your daughter will too.
Motherhood guilt isnt it wonderful...NOT. No matter how many kids you have that guilt always finds its bloody way in. If you had another one you would get the guilts that you wont have enough time with you daughter. I say embrass it. You have time to nurture and care and focus on 1 child. To go on adventures you may otherwise not be able to with your daughter. They grow up so fast you will have more time to treasure her. My hubby is an only child and he loves it. He sees the agruments my sisters and i have (occassionly) and always says im effin glad im an only child. The only time he missed it was when he did something naughty and couldnt blame anyone else. But now he is the firt to admit when he has done something wrong.
Feeling guilty is not a reason to have another child.
Being an only child can be fantastic! Parents who have plenty of time and energy for there child, not struggling financially is a benefit to your child.
Being a sibling doesn't guarantee a friend for life or your children getting along.
I can guarentee that NO child ends up in therapy because they are an only child.
There are plenty of ways to ruin your child's life, not having a sibling isn't one of them.
I have 2 brothers and we did NOT get along as a child and we're still not terribly close now. I don't think having a child to give your child a play mate is a good idea as there is no guarantee they will even get along.
Having one child was great. Then we thought having a second is just what you do. So we did. Honestly I feel like it's damaged my relationship with my first born. There are nearly 5 years between them and all they do is fight. I think this idea that siblings are great , is utter bs really. Don't have more if you don't want too.