Am I a horrible mom?
I have a child with a disability that was an unplanned/unwanted pregnancy. He still takes a lot of day to day care, he's 6, in nappies, can't dress, wash, or feed himself. He can't talk or communicate much. It took a long time to figure out how to bond with him, I was a single mum, he needed surgeries and therapies and I was under so much stress. Things are better now and I obviously love him more than anything and he amazes me every day with his determination.
But I'm pregnant with my second child, we were trying for years to fall pregnant, (different partner than last time) had the NIP test to make sure she's 'typical' and everything is fine.
I'm so scared I'm going to love this child more than my first born!! It's literally terrifying me. I love him like crazy but this one is going to be completely different/easier for me.
How do I shake these thoughts?
Am I a horrible mom
Am I a horrible mom
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4 Replies
Nope not horrible at all. These are all normal thoughts and worries planning for another baby.
where you said you love him like crazy and he amazes you every day, that wont change. Youll love the next one as well. Youll see different qualities and have days where youre lazy with one and help the other more, because having two is hard, but at the end of the day you will love them both enormously.
Not horrible at all. I'm mum to one high needs child.
I think it's hard not to grieve for the expectations of a so called normal child.
I don't think you'll love your 2nd child more, but it's totally natural to be excited about the birth of a new baby.
Completely normal. I STILL have these thoughts about my two children. It amazes me everyday that they are completely different, opposites in facts and I love them both SO much but SO differently as well. The love I have for them feels different to the love I have for the other one, but I can't describe it and I couldn't ever possibly love one MORE then the other... just differently.
It will be okay ❤️
My best friend struggled to bond with her disabled son. Failing to live up to an unrealistic 'perfect' is normal, not failure. You will love your children differently... But all parents do xxx