I'm a single mum of one.
When I was 19 I had the world at my feet I was a vet nurse working 2 jobs 6-7 days a week. I had 30k in my bank and was ready to buy a unit.
I then meet a guy and moved with him to America and spent my money in just one year. He was abusive and was using my debit card. When we got back to Aus he was violent in every way. I feel pregnant and and bashed me I ran to Melbourne where he couldn't find me.
I have moved from house to house since I left at 13 weeks pregnant. I've lived with friends, my grandma, my mum, my aunty, my dad.
My dad helped me out so much. Mentally and financially. I now have my own place and it finally feels like home. I have a really nice man and he has 2 kids been together a year now.
But every thing has changed again. My land lord is selling and I will have to move at the end of my lease in May. I feel like it's all been pulled from under me again. I hate moving it's so trumatic to move after everything. It's not a big deal but I have night mares about it. I don't want to live with my boyfriend either it just doesn't feel like time.
I'm so broke to. I'm actually going backwards. I get $670 a week and pay $350 a week rent then bills and food on top of that. I've always been the best saver and I've never been one to go out for dinner or buy clothes shoes etc that I don't need. I'm the biggest budgeter so I don't know what I am doing wrong. I'm going back about $70 a week. I'm scared by the end of the year I'm going to have nothing left for food or anything.
I feel sick scared. My daughter is starting day care next month and I was going to get a job. But is it worth it financially? will I loose my pension and day care rebaits and all that? And I might have to move somewhere that isn't even close to my daughters new day care. I have 2 dogs and finding this house was so hard.
I feel like I'm lost again like I'm never going to feel stable and secure. I just want that for my daughter. I don't know what to do with my life. I don't know where it is leading. I just feel so lost and alone and broke.
Lost alone and broke.
Lost alone and broke.
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Single mum, one child, it is soooooo worth it. You will get childcare highly subsidised, it's a no brainer, get a job. Good luck xxx
Look at houseshare with another young mum. Or a granny flat. If you can pay $200 a week youd be laughing.
You're doing an amazing job & I commend you for not jumping into living with your new man & putting your little one through that. I'm under the impression that as a single mum your childcare is substantially funded to enable you to work so definately keep looking into that & go for it. I feel you'll be better off if you can get some money behind you without assistance from others. Personally I'd try to simplify, if you do have to move it would be easier & cheaper if you didn't have the dogs. Consider rehousing them so it's less stressful to find accom. You can look at different childcare now you're moving, it's difficult but try to be adaptable & take it in your stride. It will all work out, you're strong!!