I find my step kids mum to be so toxic. She tries to be all nice and act like everything is perfect but under it all uses everybody, cheats, lies and manipulates everything and everyone. She literally tears families apart with it all. I am seeing this behavior happening in my step kids and feel so sick at the thought that this is their " role model" in their life. We do everything we can with the kids in anyway possible but i am feeling drained with the whole situation. We have kids together as well and i am starting to wonder if i want my kids around this toxic behavour. When the step kids are around they pick fights with me and my kids. They lie about things and have even had them stealing money from my purse. I feel like i am constantly walking on egg shells when they are here trying to avoid a fight. They also go back and tell their mum saying things that are in no way true witch then starts fight between us. I have major issues with depression and anxiety and i get so wound up about the kids coming to stay wuth us. I really am at a loss as to what to do. I have been in their lives for 15 years! I love my step kids to bits i really do but i just don't know how much longer i can deal with the drama that is starting to unfold and seeing them turn into people that use and abuse people. There is so much to the story but i would be here for ages if i got into more detail. But i just honestly don't want my kids seeing this and thinking it is ok cause in my books it is far from ok.
Toxic people making kids toxic...
Toxic people making kids toxic...
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Relationships & Marriage, Parenthood Guilt, Behaviour, Teenagers
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Not much you can do about mum. Set rules at your house and discipline the children how you and dad see fit. They do seem to all be over 15 from how long you have been in the picture. Maybe some councilling. She's their mum and while she might not be the nicest in your eyes she's still their mum. Try your best to set them straight at your house.
You need very clear boundaries and consequences at your home.
What is their father doing about it?
Don't get drawn into the he said/she said between homes.
Kids (of any age) need love safety and support, and that means setting rules, limits and saying no at times.
Look at doing a parenting teens course and get yourself a good therapist. You need to learn how to not be put off your game by this toxic woman