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Hi all, im 5 months pregnant with my 2nd child and my partner, 4 yr daughter and i are on a holiday.
My partner has been smoking marijuana every day for the past 4 months and drinks on the weekends, i have told him i don't like him doing it as i dont want him to be intoxicated around me or my daughter. Alcohol changes him and makes him a horrible person to be around but he has told me to stop trying to control him and let him enjoy himself as he is on holidays. This afternoon i fell asleep and when i woke up my partner and daughter had gone for a walk to the pub which is about a 5 minute walk...i called him to see where they were and i was annoyed as he went to drink more alcohol (he already had 7 beers before he left) so i told him i was pissed off as he already had plenty to drink. Anyway we ended up going out for dinner (where he drank another 4 drinks) by 9.30pm we left and where on our way back to our hotel when he asked me to stop at the bottle shop so he could buy another 4 pack of rum.. i told him how pissed off i was and didnt want him to get anymore as he was already drunk.. he started going off at me telling me how we are different people and for me to worry about myself and not what he is doing. I asked why he had to be either pissed or stoned all the time and he said because its fun and it relaxes him. After arguing about it for a while he started to bring my family up saying how he doesnt like them and they are all losers and saying that i act like im in a relationship with my parents because im so close with them. (I call my mum every day, and see her most days, we are bestfriends.)
My parents do a lot for us, they look after our daughter twice a week and never expect anything in return, they love her more then anything and are very good to her. My parents love my partner also but the other day my mum and brother made a disrespectful joke to my partner when he was on the phone saying he has boobs, my partner laughed it off at the time but then tonight he has gone off his head about it saying how much my family are cunts and how would my mum like it if he called her a fat slut. I told him it was a joke and he shouldnt have taken it to heart but he said i should have stuck up for him and went off at them about it... we argued about this for about 2 hours of him just putting my family down and asking me if id had sex with my brother and other family members because we are close. I told him he was sick for even thinking anything so stupid. He was saying that his only family is himself and our daughter and that im not part of the family because i invest all my time into my parents. He got angry because earlier in the day he asked me if i would ever live in another state as he wants to live his life and travel and live in different places and i said i wouldnt like to leave my family support.
So after all that arguing we got back to the hotel where he kept on going he ended up telling me that its not his fault he was behaving this way and that my mum and brothers comment pushed him to be so mad! I told him its his fault and the alcohol makes him an idiot. He ended up punching a hole in the wall of the bathroom and he cut his knuckle..all while our daughter was sleeping. I asked him numerous times to calm down and stop it and he just wanted to keep arguing untill he said good night bitch... Eventually he went to bed... im so upset i just feel like packing my bags and leaving with my daughter. I dont know what to do. I feel like leaving him all together after the way he acted and treated me and spoke of my family tonight. Sorry i just had to get it off my chest thank you for reading this far if you did.
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1. Never argue with an alcoholic when they’re intoxicated
2. Pack your bags
3. Leave with your daughter until he gets help.
4. If he doesn’t get help, do not look back!!!!
Well this shit is pretty eatablished its not a one off. So you can either stay with this or leave. I know it sounds too simple, i know itll break your heart and its a lot of work, but I know what i would do.
Get away from him before he uses that violence on u or ur daughter! He sounds very dangerous, his an alcoholic and a druggie he needs help big time!
You need to leave. This is not ok. You need to break the cycle.
He has all the excuses right there for why none of this is his fault hey... Now picture him being a man-boobed cunt for the next 30 years and it never being his fault. Doesn't look pretty does it?
Hahahahaha.....love this 😀
Man boobed cunt 😂
You can not talk sense with someone who is drunk or been drinking.
Go on a Holliday just you and your Bub
When he is sober talk to him, make some rules.
(I have been in a very similar situation. My partner was drunk on rum and told me to fuck off because I wasn’t doing enough around the house 3 weeks after we brought our baby home. I packed my bags while he was sleeping and told him in the morning I was leaving)
We talked a lot on the phone when I was gone he knew he had a problem with rum but they can’t see it until something drastic has to happen for something to click if they want to change.
He still drinks beer but only mid strength beer and that does not effect his mood. But absolutely there is no rum in our house. I have stopped drinking at home as he is an alcoholic and if there is grog in the house he will drink it.
It has not been easy for us with that aspect but he does love our boy and knows if I ever left so would our boy.
You need to help support him if he decides to change and it won’t be easy if he relapses go to a friends place for the night and then talk to him when he is sober.
Alcoholism is an addiction and they have to want to change for things to get better.
I hope everything works out