Okay so I need to know if I'm being a little over dramatic here.... me and my boyfriend live together, and work with each other. He does a different line of work but it's with the same company. I usually make us lunches the night before, but on the nights I'm too tired to, he will wait until the morning and make his own lunch and not make mine. He goes into work earlier than me so I don't even know until lunch time comes around and I ask if he's hungry, and he tells me he already ate. I feel like he only thinks for himself and he should at least ask me if I want anything. The same goes for breakfast, I usually bring him breakfast, but the days I don't he only gets breakfast for himself or throws a big deal if I ask where mine is. Is this selfish or is it just me ?
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I would just return the favour, just make lunch and breakfast for yourself. You're not his Mum.
This. Rule in our house is "fend for yourself or die". I could count the number of lunches I've made my partner on one hand, he's a big boy and more than capable of feeding himself.
Dramatic. Just don't make his. What would either of you do if you worked elsewhere.
I never make my partners lunch. Never have and I never will. It’s just my own little rule. I do enough and I’m not a damn slave. I’d tell him that he has failed to help out those times you haven’t done lunches and therefore if he can’t return the favour occasionally, that you aren’t going to make lunches anymore. Simple.
Youre setting yourself up for the future here. He is definitely only thinking about and helping himself. Only make his if you wantto but youre giving yourself extra work.
I'd be annoyed. Stop doing his and see what happens.
Seems like a bit of a non issue. If I don't make hubby lunch he buys it. I'd love if he just made his own those mornings as it would be better for our budget
People aren't mind readers, if it bothers you that he doesn't organize your lunch, tell him so! Or sorting your own lunches from now on would probably solve the problem too!
Simple, you make yours, he makes him. Don’t make an issue where there isn’t one.
He's being selfish and inconsiderate, and more a little chauvinist
Sounds like a typical male to me, I make three lunches for my family me, my partner and child. If I don’t make my partner his lunch then he would buy his lunch, it costs too much money. He has already shown you he will make his own lunch, so just make your own from now on. Unfortunately most men think of themselves first, gone are the days where men are called gentlemen lol I have recently met one they are hard to come by 😄