I've had a very hard 2.5 years. I've lost both my parents, and had a still birth. I'm really struggling.
I'm barely able to take care of my 2 living kids, and I'm really not looking after myself at all. The house is an absolute disaster. I want to get things done, but everything seems to big, and I'm always feeling exhausted.
I find myself pushing my husband, and the few friends I have away. I don't want to be close to anyone anymore.
I know I should probably be getting help, but it really is just one more thing that seems insurmountable.
All I want is to curl up in bed and stay there.
So exhausted
So exhausted
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It really sounds like you have depression. First and foremost make an appointment to see your doctor...if you feel you cant ask someone you can rely on and trust to make one for you. Tell your doctor everything. Forget about the housework as your mental health is priority.
Show your husband this post, tell him this is something that needs to be taken care of and you can't self care right now. You need a gp and you need a referral to a psychologist. You need bubble baths and magazines and good food. You need exercise and time outside. And you need him to help you to make the time and make it start happen right now. No excuses.
You just need to make it to one appointment! Write all this down and take it with you. I have been where you are, it won't get better on it's own . You really need to see a doctor.
I can relate ðŸ˜
The first step is the hardest. Just make the initial appointment and get a referral. If you're in Qld child and maternal health offer support for parenting young kids. We had a parenting specialist who came and worked with me when we were going through a tough time. It was more about looking after myself so I could look after my kids. Few suggestions for difficult behaviour. Please don't let it get any worse. If things are really bad you can go to emergency. There's also black dog, lifeline ect. I suggest finding a support group on infant loss. Such a lot to go through. If you can afford it, get some practical help, eg a cleaner or someone to help with meals/kids. Or if possible ask for help from friends.