What would you do?
Hi all, I have a serious case of the guilts... abit of background. I have been with an organisation since late 2013 and have recently won a position in a different section ( I have been acting in the role since mid last year) but within the same organisation. My husband and I have a 5 year old and have plans to expland our family. We held off having another baby so secure a great career to start off and also come back to when returning to work.
We discussed trying for a baby in June... my dilemma is there are only 4 people in my section, 2 male, 2 female. Last week my female coworker told me she is pregnant with her 1st. I'm so happy for as she is going to be a beautiful mumma :) I feel guilty leaving to have a baby also & now feel I should wait until she comes back part time before I have another baby. I don't want to let my remaining coworkers down & missing half their team... I'll be turning 31 soon... I'm torn.....
What would you do? Work guilt and mum guilt
What would you do? Work guilt and mum guilt
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Life Lessons, Parenthood Guilt, Pregnancy, Kids
8 Replies
If you want another now...go for it! Don't let work get in the way!
Thank you x
No sorry but you are being silly. If you want another baby then have one. You cant put something like that on hold just to keep a company you work for happy and not feel guilty. Try to have another baby and your work will sort it self out. Family comes first.
I understand what you are saying, but it's just that feeling of letting people down and leaving people in the lurch. I know the company won't care and I'm entitled to it, it's just the good bunch of people that have to pick up the slack
Employee loyalty is admirable, but organizations don't reciprocate... they aren't going to hold off their plans for you or consider how their long term planning will affect you, so don't hold off your plans for them. Your team will cope just fine. Go make that baby!
What you say couldn't be more true. the guilt is just overwhelming and I hate feeling like I'm leaving people in the lurch
You sound like a really thoughtful person but you owe your coleagues nothing, it is up to the employer to ensure the workplace is adequately staffed (if people are away on maternity leave, they should be finding temporary replacements not just expecting remaining staff to pick up the slack!).
If you wait for your pregnancy to be convenient for your coleagues or employer, it may be never so you only need to take your family's wants and needs into consideration. And as the above poster mentioned, it's very unlikely you'd get the same loyalty in return.
Thank you. I try and help as much as I can and I hate to think I'm leaving people in the lurch. I'm probably overthinking the whole situation so much, but the guilt of essentially abandoning people I definitely there