I’m 36 and i’ve Just found out I’m 5 weeks pregnant. I have a 17.5 yr old that I need to consider that I brought up as a single mum since 20 mths (he passed away).
The father is not supportive. I can do it alone but it will be so much work especially being alone again.
What are people’s thoughts about a child again after a 17 year break and no partner?
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I just became a single mum (not by choice either!) sometimes you just have to do it and don't get a choice. I think it's no problem if someone wants to raise a child alone even with a big gap, it's really up to you!
I don’t think anything about it. Do what will make you the happiest. Big deal if there is a 17 year age gap.
Don’t worry about age gaps, just listen to your heart, do what that little voice inside is telling you....all the best xxxx
Im a single mum at near 40. No older kids though. I think at any age its conpletely up to you, do you want to go through it all again, do you have the support/social circle? If its what you want, theres no reason you cant.
It doesn't matter what we think, what do you think?
It sounds to me like you're worried about being judged, put those feelings aside for a minute and ask yourself:
Do I want to do this?
Am I excited about having another child?
If you answer yes to those questions then everything else will tend to work itself out!
I do have one bit of advice though as an older sibling with a significant age gap and single mum, don't expect 17 year old to take on any parental duties (unless they want to).
I wouldn’t worry what anyone has to say about u being a single parent again. It’s no ones business you do what makes u happy. If you feel like you can handle it I’d go for it. Goodluck xx
The only thing with the age gap is that when you're shopping with both of them you may be mistaken to be the grandmother.
So as long you have a sense of humour, you'll be fine